• Hp0@lemmynsfw.com
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    3 days ago

    Don’t ask the internet.

    But as you have. Do not do it just to please him. That will lead to issues. If you do it. Be sure it is something you are choosing for you as much as him.

    If you are in any way uncomfortable. Then future issues can be amplified by the resentment.

    Only you can know if this is something that appeals to you.

    And only the two of you can evaluate how likely it is to lead to jealousy or resentment.

    If you cannot openly talk about that risk and how you or your partner may respond to negative feelings. Neither of you is really ready for this,

    Your never being with anyone else is something you should discuss first. Your comments make it seem like that is important to you. Start by talking with him about how that makes you feel. Compared to his experience. If he cannot understand you opinions and emotions. Positive and negative on that. You need to enhance you communications/mutual understanding first,

    Being able to share both positive and negative feelings. Without blaming each other. Is essential for a marriage to survive anything like this.

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        3 days ago

        Likely old enough to be your grandfather. So while it not an activity I have any interest in myself.

        I have dated a woman who faced this choice in the past. We are still friends, so she shared her advice. With a little of my own.

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        Do you love him? Do you have a healthy sexual relationship? Does he love you? I haven’t even been able to see your posts because the app I’m using isn’t able to connect to some external files. But I do have experience with a number of very close friends of mine who have gone through something similar to this.

        It’s unlikely that more sexual experience will bring you closer together. It’s not impossible, there are some swinger couples that continue to do that for many years and it works for them… But most couples, it leads to broken trust.

        One friend of mine, he had suggested the same thing for his wife. She did it. And then she continueded to do it and did it without him. He asked for it because he wanted more sexual experiences, he wasn’t satisfied with just being with his wife. In the end she wasn’t satisfied with him. It broke both of them pretty terribly.

        What do you think his motivation is for asking you to do this? Is he pimping you out hoping to make money from your online activities? Does he just want to have sex with a bunch of other women and wants to open the door to an open relationship? What is your motivation? Do you hope to still have intimacy with your husband in 10 years?

        I literally know nothing about you except the text of this specific post. But I’d say, unless you’re looking for a divorce or sleeping with whoever you want and marriage doesn’t matter, I’d say don’t do it.

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    4 days ago

    If you’re both totally on the same page, and it means I get to see more like this… hell yesss. You look incredible!