Well that sounds like a potential side if worry, but also like an opportunity for your bond to grow. Wish you both the best!

Thanks for sharing, erin!

Context for others: “это дядя” would mean “(that) is uncle”.

I once lines to an androgyn character in a book and asked my daughter (maybe 5 or 6yo at that time), she said “they wear a dress, so they must be a girl. Boys don’t wear dresses!” But she was open minded when I pointed out her prejudice.

Glad you for an appointment! I’m looking forward to the update. The nervousness is half the fun, isn’t it?

What [happened] to the hair dye? 😆 Lovely photo~

‘I already have a cheerleader, it’s my wife’ and I said ‘that’s okay, you can have two.’

I first thought you meant two wives 😅

I love that feeling when stuff like this happens. Though sometimes these jokingly-gay comments makes me nervous.

How did the sorting through your feelings go?

On the other hand, my trans teenage neighbor is upset that all the queer people & allys he’s ever met in our town are “as old as his mom”. Not like I’m any help in that regard.

I wouldn’t mind a non-evil version 😇

I’ve been a little but on reddit, but I’m not sure if I ever even wrote a comment. I was very much an introvert lurker, but I’m trying to overcome it (starting here).

Nice photo! I’m currently also trying to get my hair that long for the first time.

Hi is! As I wasnt around at the time of your previous introduction post, I’ll just say hi, nice to meet you 👋

At work I use kubernetes and quite like that (upgrading containers without downtime FTE), but I didn’t bother trying to set up the infrastructure myself. Some argue, it’s not with the efford for self hosting, I dunno.

What I do like to use is Dockge, to keep docker but also keep your sanity. It even offers a single button for “docker compose pull”, which is great of you don’t have to many compose files / stacks. Combine with a simple shell script to batch pull/build all stacks in one go, plus some backup solution, and it’s actually nice to use and does all that I need. I love CLIs, but I’ve had situations where the GUI came in very handy.

#! /bin/bash
# note: this will update and START all dockge stacks, even if you stopped them before
shopt -s nullglob
for proj in /opt/dockge /opt/stacks/*/; do
  echo "> $proj"
  docker compose -f "$proj/compose.yaml" up --pull always --build --detach
  echo ""
done

Thank you for your follow up! It’s so cheerful 🥰

Sounds like you’re making good progress! I’m happy about all the good things, especially how (apparently) well you are dealing with the setback regarding your mom. Your post radiates confidence and optimism, which is inspiring to be ❤️

I feel like I’m in the wrong place to ask, but you’re setting up a homelab computer for self hosting stuff? Awesome! I just fixed mine.

As a new user, I’ll just say thank you

Thanks for sharing ❤️ I can empathize this feeling of back-and-forth, of uncertainness. I don’t it’s common knowledge, but apparently this uncertainty, this “but I’m not 100% femme!” and “I don’t hate my current body” is apparently common for trans people. The emotional rollercoaster that is this article by Cassie LaBelle helped me through this.

Personally, I try to not rush it. I’ve repressed it long enough, but that doesn’t make it a race, I’d rather try not to trip. Give it a few weeks to see how the feelings towards regarding yourself as a woman develop. Test out what being called Nissa feels like, either in your imagination or by supportive friends / your wife. Don’t worry about it being a commitment, it can stop when you want it to, just like putting on a dress isn’t a commitment.

If it makes you happy and you feel more confident moving forward, you can plan ahead, do some research, and come out on your own terms and schedule.

Reading stories on gender euphoria has helped me to find reassurance in wanting to dare go this path. For me that was mostly transmemes and the book Gender Euphoria.