Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

Fucking right. <3.

Lol I had the exact same fear. Proud of you for telling everyone.

Just popping back to say thanks agin, i have no follow ups because you’ve been so incredibly detailed :). I appreciate you.

Hey girl, thank you so much for the detailed reply. I’ll give it a full read tomorrow when I’m not slightly drunk. <3.

Tall girls are hot as fuck.

Hey Dandelion, can I ask you about your Bica experience?

Sorry for the sensitive question, feel completely free to say “pass” or just ignore if you’d rather not answer. Also DM if you’d prefer to answer privately.

Bica is supposed to preserve erectile function better than other anti androgen, which obviously isn’t always desirable but I kindof want that for me. Was that your experience?

Everyone else has covered the important stuff, just want to say good luck. I’m similar age, I have similar worries, I’ve had similar questions, I’m starting hrt soon.

I’m so happy for you girl. Thanks for sharing!

This is really hard. I’m so sorry that you’re parents are not willing to believe you when you tell them what you need. The whole gatekeeper model of trans health care is broken to its core. Affirming care and informed consent are all we need, anything else is transphobia.

Here is a short study on how non affirming approaches to care are terrible for those being treated https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/26895269.2025.2609952

Idk if your folks would respond to this sort of study, but if they’re the kinds of libs that mine are, studies can be helpful to soften their approach. The science is on your side,whether anyone will listen is another matter ofc.

When I sought councilling at the beginning of my gender journey I looked explicitly for queer friendly and queer run orgs. Wishing you all the luck going forward.

That’s so sweet <3 congrats.

From DS9 S01E04

Absolutely same for me too. Can’t recommend it enough.

Yeah you got it. Apparently her character was originally written as a transphobic bit (haha wouldn’t it be funny if the socially awkward guy went on a date and it turned out the date was trans), but I think the actor really took it seriously and the writers consulted with trans advocacy groups and they brought on a trans woman to consult formally and make sure Hayley wasnt just a characature. It wasn’t perfect by any means but it was really interesting to compare with now where a trans person’s inclusion would be considered a pure political statement and the hate machine would immediately spin into overdrive.

You did good sis.

Totally not me 2 years ago.

That’s what I want! I think i found a place near me, and I saw a Google review from a trans woman who said they were kind and affirmative. I’m still working up the courage.

You have awesome energy :3

When you bought your nice wig did you spend time getting it fitted? Was there a fitting room and someone to help you pick one out? I feel like having a more personal touch here like you get at high end clothes shops might be useful for me.

I’ve not yet, i might try though now you’ve said it! I wear various cute hats and I guess I have a sortof alt / punk vibe anyway so very short hair can sortof fit.

I really feel you though sister. Male pattern baldness is really brutal for us. It was actually a big part of how I realised I was trans because the dysphoria became unbearable as it started to happen. I appreciate you bringing this question up.

I’m still in the cheap wig stage and still very early in transition. I assume I will get more and more frustrated with the quality (right now still just happy to have hair, oh to have been on E 10 years ago). I’m also interested in what the pricey ones might be like.