That’s what gets me. “You visit so rarely, let me make it uncomfortable for you!”

I’m so sorry. You said you accept internet hugs, so please accept mine as well 🫂 and remember you can leave early.

Upset people are impossible to deal with. I commend you for even trying!

Additional advice: before starting, think carefully about what is the assumed knowledge of the audience (what are you sure they know already, what you m should you double check on).

For training, explaining something simple to someone that doesn’t know about it is a great first step. Encourage feedback and questions.

Wow! I’m quite annoyed that it was fixed by restoring the previous package while the author had explicitly deleted it. That seems contrary to the laymen interpretation of code ownership

I had that one recently! Took me for ever to find it…

I found some local boardgames clubs and knitting clubs that are quite chill :) [and most people playing board games are either not neurotypical or introverted, so it’s a good place to start having minimal interaction]

On a similar note, being social is a skill we learn over time. Usually, while we are teenagers, we do a lot of social faux pas because we haven’t learned yet how to interact. Since you say you spend a lot of time in your room, it’s normal that it would take you a little training before becoming more of a social butterfly. Don’t be discouraged!

I don’t want to arm chair diagnose anyone from a handful of words but… this sounds like depression. Being exhausted from work should happen once in a blu moon, not every day (tired is normal). Lacking motivation to do the stuff you want to do every weekend also seems like a deeper problem.

This aside: thanks for being here! It might seem others don’t care, but we do. I have a friend going through stuff. I know they are having it rough, I try to help knowing it barely does. I just hope they’ll cone out on top at some point.

I wish the same for you. If you have accessible mental health resources, please reach out to them, get a plan in place. Even if it seems useless or overwhelming. Please

Many hobbies don’t require much to start! Gardening requires an investment of some 20$ and a decade of your life

It is great for your mental health.

When I was a student and had to hardcore budget, first was rent, second was “social Friday beer”, and only then came the food budget. Nowadays, beer wouldn’t be second, but it was the goal that reminded me why I couldn’t blow my money too quickly.

Always nice to see comments putting the info into a larger pattern, thanks!

Question 6 is missing ;) - and there doesn’t seem to be a need for question 5?

I don’t have ADHD either, and I succeeded in getting out of it. Mainly by scheduling other stuff earlier, and over time just getting in a pattern of getting stuff done. Took a whiiiile (like a year or two of conscious effort) and still often takes a bunch of alarms being set.

And after the effects of the previous pill has expired, usually!

One of the many, many aspects of this clusterfuck that I want to point out is that doing science is not like riding a bike. You can’t park your science in the garage for a couple of years and then come back and expect it to work out. Science is, on the practical level, a lot of very sensitive instruments that age fairly quickly and require a lot of maintenance. But it’s mainly a web of people, each having their own specific set of skills, all collaborating towards a given goal. No one knows really everything about a collaborative project. Stopping funding means waving a hand through a fine web of connections that are impossible to quickly set up again. It takes some 3-5 years to set up a good working group on any given project.

I am cis, and that was a very important self-actualisation and self-discovery path. I was the quiet shy kid in high school. Luckily, I had some amazing friends that brought me out of my shell and accepted whatever came out. Over time (so much time!) I finally embraced weirdness and random thoughts, and acting on them. It’s incredibly freeing to just do what you want to do! I’m a “serious person” with a “serious job”, I still paint my hair silly colors and do whatever I feel like!

My main problem with this is that I am not a constant person! So every time I’m likely to take something new.

And still, my partner reads my mind correctly most of the time. Sometimes, they’ll tell me “check the second page of the menu, you’ll like it” and they are always right. Magical partner…

We are at an estimate of 8 billions

I hadn’t read any of her short stories before. She is one of those authors that, no disrespect, farted pure gold.

Every little thing Le Guin wrote is a gem gifted to humanity. I hadn’t read this one yet, it’s incredibly good. Thanks for sharing it.

I just like reading books with oddly long expositions. So, like, in the Mysterious Island by Jules Vernes there is a whole section on how to turn seal fat into nitroglycerin, if anyone is interested. And somehow I remember that more than the plot…