The pocket depression rectangle is great for distraction noises in a pinch.

If we invert the chirality of the tachyon pulse emitter, we can stabilize the fluctuations in the muonic field!

Same, that one is completely unrelatable to me. My boyfriend can do it, but we suspect it’s actually dissociation, a trauma response.

Ding ding ding! For me, the thoughts become so pervasive/overwhelming that I either retreat completely, or get lost in the sauce. It’s not uncommon for my spouse to check in on me while I’m on the toilet. “You’ve been in there for an hour.” Zero recollection of time passing, and little to no memory of thoughts. Or I’ll be in the shower, have a stray thought snag a neuron, and who knows how long later I’m still standing there holding the soap, unsure of what I’ve washed already, but shaken because I just mentally experienced a dozen different versions of a traumatic event that hasn’t actually happened. The former is as close as I get to head empty, the latter is everything firing at once in the least productive way possible.

I’ve tried to so many times “clear my mind of thought” as people say to do for meditation, but all the attempts have ever done was leave me more stressed than I was before. My brain does not shut the fuck up. Ever. I’ve been suffering from insomnia as far back as I can recall, all because no matter how tired I am, sometimes my brain just will. not. be. quiet. Everything is a potential stimulus. Any minor sound, the feeling of my bedsheet, even having my partner turn over could remind me of some obscure memory or story or fact, and my brain doesn’t stop, it just changes direction.

Loud and clear. For meditation, I’ve found that guided works better for me. And instead of “clearing my head” (ha), concentrating on abstract visualizations related to the guidance helps. For sleep, I have to break all of the “rules.” Have something to concentrate on like a game, video, or book until I feel like I’m “ready.” (Like dropping the phone or controller.) And then have music playing low to take my attention as I fall asleep. Without it, as you said, any little stimulus is enough to send things into overdrive and undo any sleepiness. Doubly so if the stimulus leads to anxiety.

Also, fuck doctors that won’t listen. And double-fuck those that insist on trying to cram everything into boxes that they’re familiar with, to the exclusion of maybe just MAYBE the person living through the experience has a better read on said experience than you do.

\o/

Credit for the image to… uh… one of y’all. Probably.

the neighbors will remember this

May this mysterious masked unicycler find a stick in their spokes and their teeth shattered upon the pavement.

Thanks for this!

smh. That’s supposed to go in cell A1.

Fr, I can fuckin go to sleep on my meds at times.

I didn’t do much but sleep for two months after getting back on the pharma-go-round after a couple of decades off of it. My psychiatrist refused to take my reports seriously and kept finding other things to blame. (And to be fair, there’s a LOT going on right now.) So I stopped le stimulant… and have had a grand total of two naps in as many weeks. I’m still exhausted all the time, but at least I can stay awake. I’m also not nearly as irritable.

I find guided meditation the easiest to follow. The “empty your head” thing I don’t think is possible for me. So let’s say it’s guided audio on deep breathing and a countdown from 20. Breathing in, I imagine the number taking shape. Could be a sports jersey, someone’s upcoming birthday or anniversary, anything associated with the number. Hold the breath, let the number solidify. Exhale, the number fades or gets blown away. Repeat, letting the audio keep me on track. My mind will wander. It’s inconsequential. The audio will either bring me back, or not. I can try again later.

The most important thing is that any form of mediation takes practice. It’s a skill like any other. It’s often suggested in therapeutic settings, usually for grounding etc. But it should be practiced while not in distress for it to be reliably there to lean on for the time you really need it.

Can’t speak for the single, but here’s the album:

https://www.discogs.com/release/5137461-Ozzy-Osbourne-Blizzard-Of-Ozz

Maybe it depends on what I want to happen when that load spike comes.

I don’t know what they wanted to happen, but at my old place the load spike overloaded the UPS units.

Me: “we really shouldn’t be running these at 85 90 95%.”

Brass: “That’s not 100. Find room to ingest this company we bought when the CEO made a friend at a circlejerk.”

Overnight server update check: blip

UPS: Bypass mode, bitches!

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I utterly fail at containing and articulating most of these flashes. It’s like the data (signal and noise alike) is an incessant thought stream, and the insight is a flash flood. In that instant it makes sense, but turning it into spoken word before getting washed away is a creaky elderly bucket brigade that can never keep up. The buckets leak and end up in the wrong order. I always found it more helpful to go with the flow and see where it takes me, but that doesn’t often align with the demands of real life. Teachers want essays (sometimes by the end of the period). Parents want grades. Bosses want results. All demand obedience.

I’ve got more than a drop of the 'tism, combined with the intermittently squirting faucet of severe anxiety and dank sludge of executive dysfunction going back to childhood. And in hindsight it feels like the gifted label I earned before things got truly awful was just a dunk tank where teachers and parents got to take free shots because they couldn’t see unreliable bucket brigade or smell the sludge. “Not working up to his potential.” “Lazy.” The standard 80’s fare for bright AuDHD kids that weren’t disruptive (or had stimming etc. behaviors shamed out of them.)

I managed to doggy-paddle my way upstream - undiagnosed, unmedicated, exhausted. To outsiders, it’s like I wasn’t even moving. Just splashing around. The constant negative reinforcement begat dreary, drizzly depression. Soggy muck everywhere. At first there were breaks of daylight, but those became less and less frequent in favor of more damp, more gray.

And then I got my head held under by the real world. Every breath I was able to snatch came with conditions - just go back to the retail job for a bit after getting laid off, just get through Christmas, just get a real job, just get a promotion, just get a better job, just get a raise, just get a house and finally stop sharing thin walls, fighting the overwhelm and the sludge through all of it and losing more and more of myself. Each snatched breath carried the empty hope that the next breath would be the one to let me keep my head above water. It never happened. I just kept getting dashed against the rocks, the incessant thought streams and occasional flash flood of insight meaning nothing against the might of the sea.

Yet still I adapted. I discovered the sensory deprivation tank of dissociation. The hyperfocues and special interests that once provided warmth and light in calmer tides were now but a featureless bog. No longer drowning, but every movement risked losing something else. A shoe, keys, a prized memory - the bog would take it all. The incessant stream became more of a trickle, much of it passive. But it didn’t stop, even if I did. And in the still bog below me I could see reflections of the current trickle. And just to the right, reflections of past streams. Each mirror-like pool showed the reflection of a different stream. Past failures. Regrets for things not done. Injustices unpunished. Mistakes I could never undo. I got lost in some of them. Relived pain. Fantasized about taking different branches in the stream. Had impeccably articulate arguments with antagonists that in real life would have left me floundering for words. And the more I tried interacting with the reflections, the more I realized the ponds weren’t quite motionless. There were tiny ripples. And those ripples influenced the reeds, which influenced other pools. In places, the cumulative ripples produced an interference pattern. In this joyless bog where I hid from the world, from myself, unmoving lest the sense of false safety be betrayed, I was seeing tiny crests and troughs modifying countless others in myriad Fourier dances and creating a new stream. No, not new. Just previously undiscovered. One that was there all along, exerting unseen influence. It made me question, well, everything. Myself. My upbringing. My place in the world. The world itself. My beliefs. There was no flash flood of insight. Just a steady drip of reevaluation.

And then it started to rain. At first it was the familiar dreary rain. Then it was the spray from a geothermal geyser that was way too close for comfort. Hot, abrasive. Anger. I couldn’t stop the geyser. Couldn’t fight it. I could walk away, but I quickly found many more geysers.

Through all of this, the sludge and unreliably squirting faucet kept picking away pieces of me. Until one day a literal tempest hit and laid me bare. It was all I could do to tread water. I managed to find a life preserver, but it’s slowly deflating as the riot police hook up the firehose with detached indifference.

I’d apologize for the extended metaphors, but once I got my feet wet I couldn’t help but dive in.

Oh let me flow into the ocean
Yeah let me get back to the sea
Let me be stormy and let me calm
Let the tide in, and set me free

• Pete Townshend

I try to be that friend. Mostly, people are too busy being wrung dry by “life” to respond.

Well it’s certainly lacking in the boon category.

No, it’s not. No matter how much effort you put in, it will never be enough. The world is only satisfied when we’re dead, preferably of natural causes after wringing us dry of “productivity.”

Tubazooka ftw

It’s still a struggle and it’s also cost me a significant amount of my ability to enjoy my free time (have to severely limit my investment in anything not work related so I don’t accidentally get consumed by it and lapse at work)

This path leads to burnout. I have no practical advice since we are kind of required to put work first in order to survive. But the fact that it’s socially acceptable to call this “living” makes me sick to my stomach.