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If you’re in the US I can PM you the name of the service I used to get diagnosed. First attempt I was given what I later learned was a very outdated test, after which I was told “your job is too hard for someone with ADHD”.

Got mine less than a year ago at 41. My whole fucked up life makes sense.

Brother I know. I was diagnosed less than a year ago. Masking is exhausting and I do it automatically.

You are ok

As I’ve become older and been friends with many much older people, they generally take care to say something like “I really appreciated your help yesterday”.

I don’t know if it’s right or wrong, but they’re telling you they enjoyed the time/favor whatever.

And I’m a brash fucking asshole to meet.

Some of us have shit genetics. Yeah I’m 6 feet tall, strong as an ox, etc, but the mental issues that were handed to me I would never want to pass on. Both my parents died in their early 60s.

With the executive dysfunction I have combined with clinical depression and being short on work, most days I don’t even bother to take a shower.

I tell the people I work and worked for that I need external motivation and it’s worked out pretty well. Home life, my wife can sometimes be enough to motivate me. Not because she asks, but I want the house to be nice for her. If I lived alone it would be a mess.

Exactly what happened to me. I went for help with depression and anxiety. 3 years later, nothing really working, I find out I have severe ADHD at age 41. And my whole life made sense.

Came here to say this.

You don’t need an audience to sing or dance.

That’s ok, same here.

Sing to your children!

Reminds me of when Obama was giving speeches, he had his signature start stop style. It was because he was thinking before he spoke. Conservatives at the time claimed he sounded stupid because he didn’t just word vomit his thinking immediately.

There are much cheaper ways to get a diagnosis, even for people without health insurance.

I’m still doing physical labor, but I think neurotypical people would go crazy with my schedule. I don’t know what days I’m working sometimes until two days before. I don’t even know where in the country I’ll be next week. I thrive in the chaos and the physical work, but I can’t keep it up forever. Freelance contractor for IT work.

Do you mind telling me what age she was? My wife is suffering severely with mental health but will not see a psychiatrist. I suspect perimenopause. She does see a therapist.

I was diagnosed last year, age 41. I think back to one of my earliest memories, where someone took me out of 2nd grade class to give me tests in some big closet or boiler room. I am convinced I was diagnosed at that time with at least ADHD, but my mom didn’t believe in mental health treatments despite desperately needing them herself. She’s dead so I can’t ask her what those tests were about.

Can I have your spares?

How did you get both? I want both.

After my psych dropped off the face of the earth I tried an online service reluctantly. The doctor I got is awesome. PM me if you want to know the name.