Having ADHD is cool on Lemmy, because it’s one of the few places where it’s safe to talk about the daily challenges of living with ADHD with people who understand you and won’t judge you.

You are actively making it uncool to talk about ADHD by downplaying and dismissing people’s struggles with ADHD by calling ADHD symptoms a pathologized neurotypical experience. So please stop.

I don’t know about surgery options for trans men, but for cis women where periods are a concern, we don’t need our uterus removed. That would be like cutting off our whole foot because of an ingrown toe nail. Hysterectomies, as with the removal of any organ, comes with inherent risks.

Birth control pills, IUDs, shots, are all options that can allow periods to go away. If we need almost absolute certainty that we will never get pregnant, bi-salp and tubal litigation are an option too.

I imagine, for trans men it’s not just a matter of periods, as owning female reproductive organs comes with body dysphoria that goes beyond periods.

TERFs are fucked up. Not an excuse, but as an explanation, they likely think that trans women are reaping the benefits and aesthetics of womanhood without having to suffer through growing up as a girl. They completely dismiss the struggles that trans people grow up with and the fact that trans women also face misogyny.

They are miserable people because misery is how they define their gender identity.

Women tend to exhibit inattentive ADHD more frequently than men. This is part of why boys are 16x more likely than girls to be diagnosed with ADHD. It’s because women and girls don’t fit the traditional media representation of what ADHD looks like, and more parents become oblivious to the fact that their child needs help.

People are cancer. Religion is product of people.

Being religious doesn’t inherently make anyone a good or bad person, it just allows people to justify how they feel about themselves.

For perspective, to a devout Hindu, you are cruel and barbaric for eating factory farmed meat.

Philippe I, Duke of Orléans’s “homosexual activity was not unwelcome, because it was seen to reduce any potential threat he may have posed to his older brother.”

That is a rare instance where being straight was more dangerous.

Straight pride is stupid.

Girl boring guy quirky.

Meanwhile: girls with inattentive ADHD sitting dead at the bottom of a pool meme

You obviously feel to the need to tell people they’re overreacting anytime you feel attacked, but please try to step back and realize I never said you should call them a mom. Weird how often this happens on my account with a female name.

I simply pointed out that being a pet owner alone shouldn’t preclude one from the same kind of appreciation, provided that they put in just as, if not more, effort than some mothers do. Fostering kittens is intense work, and being an animal fostering parent isn’t something to be scoffed at as a ‘silly’ title.

There are billions of moms in the world, but each one of us only have one or two. It’s not just about celebrating every mom, it’s also about acknowledging what your mom meant to you.

Fostering kittens involve getting up every 2-4 hours to feed a whole litter of cats for several weeks. Some volunteers take it upon themselves to do this for several litters a year because of animal abuse, abandonment, and neglect by shitty people.

That’s more than some deadbeat parents have ever done.

Not asking you to call them a mom, just asking you not to downplay the impact of animal care.

Tell me then, where do we turn to when doctors, one of the most trusted professions in society, are silently killing us?

Where do we turn to when every woman with serious abdominal pain gets turn away because they cannot be trusted to know what their own period feels like, only to later die from endometrial cancer or peritonitis?

Girls are 16 times less likely to be diagnosed than boys. Where do we go and get an ADHD diagnosis before the suicidal thoughts set in? What the fuck are the rest of us supposed to do if doctors take one look and conclude that she ‘just wants attention’?

The vast majority of self-diagnosed people are women and POC because they have historically been underserved and dismissed due to standards of ADHD care being exclusively modeled on boys from decades ago and systemic inequality in modern medicine leading to poorer outcomes in non-cis white males.

The ‘everyone has ADHD these days’ sentiment comes from the gatekeeping of ADHD behaviors to male stereotypes in media. Because girls are socialized differently and given less leniency for presenting the same behaviors, they are forced to mask better by internalizing their symptoms into depression and other mental health issues later on in life.

This kind of is no more than social media backlash against women coming out speaking about their experiences with systemic inequality in medicine, only to be told that this is all a social media fad in their heads. Speaking as someone who had to needlessly suffer for 3 decades before finding a (female) doctor who gave a damn about it. When I finally got medicated, I just broke down and cried. Out of relief from finding out what living with executive function and peace on my own was like, and out of bitterness that this was withheld from me and many more women out there.

So don’t ever tell self-diagnosed people they don’t know how their own body works. I’m sick and tired of hearing this argument from people who haven’t been medically gaslit to no end by doctors who don’t treat their patients like reliable witnesses to their body. This goes so much further than ADHD. I have had other severe misdiagnoses that put my life at risk because of doctors’ egos who would rather get you killed than admit they’re wrong for dismissing your symptoms.

Shh… you’re not allowed to point out racist and sexist themes in LOTR because as everyone knows, ‘being a product of its time’ absolves it of any modern criticism and saying otherwise makes you a woke DEI snowflake.