My T levels are suuuper low, so I do feel like it is effective on that front. Unfortunately, prog never affected my libido, but everything else has been sooo amazing that it’s just something I’ve learned to cope with. I’m sure I’ll eventually explore options with my doctor at some point, so it’s always nice hearing other people’s thoughts and experiences with things!
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Oh wow, I suppose I should do some additional research! I’ve been taking it for ~2 years and haven’t had issues beyond what I expect from suppressed testosterone. Maybe swapping to a different one would nudge my libido back from the depths 🤔
Yesss same! I loooove flowly maxi skirts 🩷
It can be sooo difficult navigating and feeling comfortable in a new style 🫂 When I first started transitioning, even wearing new colors brought me anxiety. I had worn jeans, black t-shirts, and a hoodie my whole life just trying to be invisible. I literally hadn’t worn shorts for over 20 years. My first step was just wearing pink t-shirts and replacing my cool designs with cute ones. Then came wearing shorts; they were also pink, but I found ones with floral designs to breakup the monotone pink effect. Then came the skirts! It was soooo nerve wracking at first, but after the first week I knew I’d never go back to pants or shorts. Tops and blouses were be a bit of a challenge, but I found I look best in ones that have plunge or scoop neck. Having more skin showing in the chest area makes my shoulders look less broad and doesn’t frame my face/neck as much making things appear overall softer. I hope you keep exploring and experimenting!! Sometimes it takes just one piece or outfit to find a style that clicks with you 🩷
I hope the longer one feels better for you! I personally enjoy maxi skirts sooo much more (with the occasional midi) than shorter styles. Maxi skirts flow so elegantly, and there’s so many different styles! I love tiered ones the most 🩷 They also come with the benefit of less hair maintenance. I’ve had my legs lasered, but there’s a few hairs that grow in occasionally that I still need to trim; with a maxi skirt, you don’t need to worry so much during any lazy phases! It’s also just the best feeling when people approach me and describe my style as elegant and ethereal, or when children shyly say I look like a princess 🥺
When I first started my own journey, I originally identified as non-binary. It’s what I changed with the courts and the various government offices. It was something that felt right and was done to be slightly anarchist - it was my way of pushing back on gender as a concept. I used she/they pronouns and enjoyed discovering my style. I think at the time it was also a way to defend myself; I couldn’t be attacked if I didn’t commit.
Slowly, I started leaning fully into my femme side. I realized that I was still living in a way that was driven by fear…as I had my entire life. As I found new friends, community, and felt supported as a human, I embraced what was truly in my heart. I now identify and present fully as a woman and use she/her pronouns.
I feel like our journey’s of self discovery take us all to different places! We explore ourselves, learn about ourselves, and start to love the person inside of us whose voice was muffled by society and culture.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🩷 and I hope that every new thing you learn about yourself continues to bring you joy and helps you shine even brighter 🌟
Also, yessss laser hair removal is sooo amazing. Even if it’s not as full proof as electrolysis, the few stubborn hairs that do grow back are so much easier to deal with!
18·25 days agoSaaame! They are either way too fast or too slow and a little tangenty 😵💫 when I learn new things I tend to need to ask questions, but that’s a bit hard to do through videos. I feel very fortunate that I actually like my face without makeup, so I was okay giving up on that front!
Was switched to these from a different patch for my last prescription pickup. I was a little wary and concerned that they might not be as effective as my previous ones, buuut I honestly like them so much more!! They adhere much better and my skin barely reacts to the adhesive they use.
After transitioning, bunnies became the animal I decorate with the most 🐇 I welcome more bunny friends!!
3·2 months agoSome of my affordable favorites~
Face Moisturizers
- La Roche Posay triple repair cream
- Illiyoon Ato cream
Face SPF (after trying so many)
- Medicube No Cast Just Glow
Body
- La Roche-Posay Lipikar Urea 10%
- Try finding ones with Urea, it’ll make your skin sooo soft
Body SPF
- La Roche-Posay Anthelios Melt-In Milk Sunscreen
- I’m honestly still searching for a favorite body SPF, but this one has worked well enough for me
For brands that are well regarded and on the more affordable side (and that I’ve personally tried and had success with) - CeraVe, La Roche-Posay, The Ordinary, Cosrx, Medicube, Anua, Round Lab, Skin1004, Etude.
Mmmm not necessarily inserts to increase size, but I did use Cakes Body nipple covers in-place of a bra until super recently. They do have a volume version, but I’m not too familiar with it! I found them super convenient, easy to maintain/clean, and they honestly held in place much better than I expected! There were days (hot ones) where sweat would cause them to slip around, but that was mostly with the non-adhesive version.
I like how you’re addressing this too! I remember having a conversation with my gf about how so many dresses and tops fit slightly odd on me, and she pointed out that many women’s tops are designed to be worn with bras or to accommodate a particular type of breast shape. I tried those tops/dresses on with a bra, and was like ohhh I see it now!
I’ve read that! I’ve had no side effects and my levels (have to get blood work every 6 months) are where my provider wants them, so I haven’t really had reason to explore that option.
Pretty much the same for me! 2+ years on hrt. I forget when I added progesterone, but I was super hoping it’d help. No change. I did have a brief moment (couple weeks) of it returning when I started dating my current gf (long distance). It felt entirely different, and was incredibly pleasant, but I woke up one day and it was gone.
I’m assuming it was propelled by the new emotions and connecting with someone as a girl for the first time. I’m also suspecting that the lack of physical closeness has a lot to do with it… that and the mix of my autism and ADHD. Images, videos, anything that would excite me before doesn’t really do anything. It really bothered me for a bit, but I’m more okay with it now! I’ll have to reevaluate if I’m ever in a local relationship again!
First point- are you doing monotherapy or are you also on an anti-angrogen? Taking something like spiro will help suppress testosterone which will help your body with its feminization. Does your provider require blood work to test your levels? I have to get blood work done ever 6 months to make sure I’m in the right place (actually had to up my initial dose as my estrogen levels suddenly crashed a year in)
The family dynamic will very much depend on overall safety. I’m not a parent and not interested in being one, so my opinion is coming from a different place. You are your own person, and I’d honestly put distance between my mom and I if she was unsupportive. I wouldn’t allow her to be in my life and risk my children being exposed to her views. As for other children… you can’t control them, but you can be a guide to your children on how to handle disgusting behavior and language. I think that’s part of being a parent. I think it’s important for your children to see it’s okay to be the person they want to be. Constantly swapping on them might create a feeling that they need to constantly mask to fit in.
Documentation will depend on your location. I would suggest seeing if there’s local lgbtq resource or support centers that may information for your particular country/area. There will have been others who have transitioned and been through the process.
Voice training takes time🩷 I realized early on that listening to women in the real world (not online or content) allowed me to be more comfortable with my voice. I would focus more on inflection, intonation, and tilt. Here’s a guide that helped me understand what makes up a voice and what I could work on that wasn’t just focusing on pitch. https://www.undeadvoice.com/guide. They also have a free class which is a great place to start!
Name- it was suggested in another thread to not be shy about trying out different ones! You don’t need to settle on one immediately. You can be honest that you’re seeing what feels right. See how you feel introducing and being addressed with different names. I’m sure you’ll find one that feels like you 🩷
Facial hair- laser or electrolysis. IPL is not going to be effective, will take forever to work (if it does), and carries certain risks when being used on faces like ours. I went the laser route and am happy with my results. I have and grays on my chin that I might eventually get removed through electrolysis. Trimming/shaving grays doesn’t lead to shadow for me, so I’m not too bothered by them. I might also get any stray hairs that eventually start growing in handled with electrolysis.
As far as razer burn - how’s your skincare routine? Shaving routine? Do you have an exfoliant (not a physical one -a serum or toner)? As your skin and hair softens this should also help. I use a Philips Norelco OneBlade for any upkeep - cuts super close and doesn’t irritate my skin like a razor.
Ummm both to a degree! You should shine as you and the right people will gravitate to you 🩷 I meant my gf through Discord connecting over a game we both played… Which is still unbelievable to me since I’m incredibly shy (and audhd) and rarely try to connect with new people. For well over a decade I didn’t make any new friends outside of one or two through another friend. Since transitioning, I’ve made a handful of new friends! Just be you, be patient, and share your light with others 🌟
I bought my tucking underwear from tcomfits. They’ve even sent me free samples for upcoming products over the last year! They are functionally amazing, but not necessarily the cutest. For my bras, to save money while I figured out what worked for me, I purchased different brands and types from Nordstrom Rack.
I super recommend using this calculator for bra sizing. They even have a setting for transfems which was exactly what I needed as other methods of measuring weren’t really connecting me with the right bras https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator.php
One piece at a time 🩷 I personally find shopping for an aesthetic makes things a bit easier than shopping just generally or for trends/seasons. When you start settling into a look, you’ll find all your clothing matches and can be swapped around for different co-ords!
AM:
- Cleanse/rinse with warm water
- Toner - numbuzin No.9 NAD+ PDRN Glow Boosting Toner (this step is pretty much slippable- I just like the way it feels)
- Vitamin C - favorite is the Skincueticals one, but I’m trying different dupes to save money. Currently using the Paula’s Choice BOOST C15 Super Booster
- Skincueticals P-TIOX
- Moisturizer - La Roche-Posay Triple Repair Moisturizing Cream
- Sunscreen (if going out) - medicube No Cast Just Glow Collagen Sunscreen (my holy grail sunscreen)
PM
- Cleanse - ETUDE SoonJung pH 6.5 Whip Cleanser
- Toner - same as AM
- Skincueticals P-TIOX or Paula’s Choice 6% Mandelic Acid + 2% Lactic Acid Exfoliant (I use this twice a week in place of the P-TIOX)
- Moisturizer - same as AM
Body moisturizer - La Roche-Posay Lipikar Urea 10% (this will make your skin suuuper soft)
I was using prescription Tretinoin and Azelaic acid in place of my different exfoliator serums for awhile, but I didn’t like how angry my skin was getting everytime I had to pause for different things like laser hair removal or microneedling. I’ll eventually go back to them once I finish my laser and microneedling sessions!
Ironically so relate 🤭 Worked at my previous job for like 10+ years, transitioned and went through maybe a month of clunkiness at work before they downsized our team and I no longer had a job. Kind of was a blessing outside of the income anxiety 😵💫
As much as I very much dislike generalizing behavior to gender or any other broad attribute, I do still share similar sentiments with you. I do not feel comfortable around most men, I do not feel safe around most men, and I generally avoid them.
Throughout my life women have been the most supportive, caring, and relatable to me. They have not been the ones to physically abuse me, yell at me, or hurt me in any other way. I do have friends that are men- they are all gay or fall somewhere under the queer umbrella, but even they have left me unsupported in times when I’ve desperately seeked their support. I do understand that my views and feelings are from my personal trauma, and maybe someday I’ll have enough experiences that change my feelings.