WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

Curious how you would feel if you found out your partner of 30+ years had been hiding something like this out of fear that you would reject them?

In that case, it feels like the other two characters are metaphorical representations of the first person looking back at themselves as an egg and poking fun at how self-oblivious they were, so I don’t see how it violates such rule.

Perhaps I’m projecting though cause no one assumed I was trans afaik until after I started saying or doing things to intentionally hint that I was an I wanted to get questioned (not told I must be a certain gender or trans, but just asked if I was trying to tell them something).

I’m not sure the characters being fiction is a strong reason for the same reason “it’s just a joke” isn’t a good enough reason to justify jokes that promote harmful ideology via their assumptions. But there is certainly more wiggleroom with fictional characters and there is also the risk of trans erasure in fiction if taken too far imo.

February 71st is the same day as April 12th most years. Just realized my HRT anniversary is basically e day.

They might not believe that and just be trying to gaslight/troll.

They might have heard it’s trendy and gets you cool points and somehow don’t see how hard it could be.

They could just think trans people don’t exist, therefore all must be fake.

They could think you are a troll trying to make trans people look bad.

If you are an NB, it could be someone who doesn’t believe in NBies or certain subsets.

If you aren’t trying to transition medically, they could be transmeds.

If you suffer from things like depression, they could think you are trying to look for an excuse to blame that on.

Could be someone who is in denial themselves and part of their denial is believing certain things are normal for their agab and trans people saying it’s part of their trans experience challenges that. Similar to neurodivergent parents who deny their children’s neurodivergent because the parent think of themselfs as neurotypical.

All kinds of excuses people could have for their beliefs. Pretty much all of them boil down to some level of transphobia.

Its like being hungry, but nothing sounds appetizing.

LARP for those you need to LARP for while otherwise transitioning.

You could have horny brain and be demisexual.

it’s the one that often gets the strongest visceral reaction from folks.

Do some people interpret it as you being psychopathic/sociopathic?

I don’t really use those labels when describing myself IRL; I just say I’m not really interested in things like dating if I’m asked, but that rarely happens.

Feel like 90% of the furries I watch stream at least do art some of the time and I particularly try to follow artists. So seems like a reasonable expectation for someone who totally definitely isn’t a furry, but just interacts with the community and thinks the community is neat.

I’ve met quite a few pre-transition MTF people now, some of whom appeared very masculine, and it’s immediately apparent that it’s a non-threatening interaction. I guess it’s unconscious body language, or something like that. Men being creepy tend to seek attention from women as a man.

Kinda curious how often women suspect men are gay because they don’t see as threatening as other men.

I’d still rather know and just not transition than to deal with not knowing personally. Of course other people’s experiences may very.

Unfortunately a lot of years could be considered the “wrong” year. But any year is better than a future year.

I sometimes assumed that was why I didn’t really consider myself a man for a while before I realized that it wasn’t. But I’ve also never felt comfortable with the label and there was a lot of other things I was also ignoring. Still, would be easier for people to explore gender if so many men were not so toxic that any decent person wouldn’t want to be associated with them and women didn’t have to deal with so much sexism that it wasn’t a natural thing to wish they could escape that.

I don’t think I’ve had any problems with lack of growth due to losing weight personally. And being thinner makes them seem more clearly like boobs and not moobs imo.

Same reason why the removal of solar panels from the white house matters: it chills future action out of fear that those who follow will just destroy it. The 8000 that already existed is nothing, but the US government is one of the largest employees.

I would guess OP has felt something similar at some point and that’s why they shared it.

Certainly something I can relate to, even if not exactly 100% identical.

any of the tens (hundreds?) of alternative servers that offer literally exactly the same thing.

Awesome Lemmy Instances shows nearly 500 and its outdated.

Some people pay a lot of attention to what instances people are from. I think I’ve had someone who jumped to negative assumptions about me because of what instance I’m using and I think I might have seen like one person from this instance - I pretty much never see people using the same instance, so its weird imagining someone seeing it enough to have an assumption about the users.

There are some servers that are a bit more tight-knit (hexbear comes to mind).

Socially, I see myself as agender, but it wasn’t until 2.5 years (and 6 months after I started HRT) after my egg cracked that I came out to anyone except my roommates so makes sense why my dreams are the way they are. I’m still only out to a few people, and ideally I’d rather not have people at work find out.

I did have a dream recently where everyone started gendering me as a woman and dream-me liked it even though it acknowledged that people weren’t quite correct, it certainly was a lot better than being assumed a guy.

Transfem NB, egg cracked in my late 20’s.

I think my dreams have almost always excluded showing my own body or gender. I remember having some dreams of being in the “wrong” bathroom and being worried about what others would think back in middle school.

After egg crack, I started sometimes having dreams dealing with people finding out that I’m trans, but if anxiety about coming out isn’t the focus of the dream, then my gender usually isn’t really part of them. I might have like randomly had larger boobs than irl months after starting hrt.

Even when referring to myself in third person to people I’m out to, I still default to old pronouns by accident most of the time. I rather I didn’t do that, but it’s not really a big deal for me. Find it kinda funny my dreams are more consistent about seeing me as trans/not a man than my own conscious language.