The longer its been, the harder it gets to come out. Eventually I decided to wear a bra with shirt that made it kinda obvious I was wearing a bra to bait my parents into starting a conversation I could use as an excuse to bring it up finally.
When your parents are accepting enough of gender nonconformity, it might not work.
Surprising how oblivious people can be. With my parents, it took me 6 months to say something. I thought it was kinda obvious I had some changes by that point (small enough that it would be easy to hide but I didn’t always wear extra layers) and my brother agreed. After I came out, one of my moms commented that I “suddenly had boobs.”
At 8 months, I saw another queer family member for the first time in years, I was wearing a snuggish women’s tank top, and I guess she still apparently didn’t notice anything either and she was immediately accepting and subtly affirming with no delay or awkwardness.
Looking forward to trying this again with a friend or two now that it’s been over a year and it’s a bit more obvious.
Maybe you took an interest in enough things to do well? Personally, I’d get distracted from lessons with trying to figure out alternative ways to think about or solve problems for things like math and I liked practicing mental math, so used normal classwork as a way to do that.
More surprised I was able to deal with classes like English and history though. But I’ve just been lucky enough to have a good memory for certain things school cares about.
You could just push button or knock and immediately leave
When I was in middle school, I was sorta wondering if guys just pretended sexual attraction was a thing because it was expected of them.
Then I realized that such seemed like a ridiculous theory (although I still assumed it was exaggerated for social reasons and didn’t really think sexual attracted was related to interest in sex for a long time after…).
Or virtual number. Or using the call function within an app rather than a phone number.
The only time I’ve been asked about my gender identity at work was before I started HRT. I’ve been on HRT for a year and people just don’t seem to notice. But like, I still have facial hair and I’m at least overweight enough that people can overlook the fact that I have boobs now, so everyone just assumes I’m a guy. Big YMMV thing though.
Worry about work was something that kept me from starting sooner too though. Best of luck getting somewhere safer soon!
When I read that article that starts with a copy/paste of the DSM symptom list for dpdr before saying what that list is, I was like “why is this article just a giant list about me?”
Interesting there’s a name to describe things I kinda just assumed were partly just an autism thing.
Imo, if things fit right, tucking should be comfortable for most activities. Otoh, when things don’t fit right, there’s enough space for things to escape, which then makes them prone to unpleasant feelings. I have a pair of boyshorts that are supposed to be for tucking, but because they’re too loose, they can cause problems and don’t actually flatten well.
When I came out to my moms, one of them commented about how I “suddenly had boobs” - it wasn’t sudden and I had been wondering for a couple months if they might notice before I got around to saying something (had been on E for 6 months at that point - granted the first 3-month dosage was in the low-side).
People still default gender me as male though - even those who didn’t know me until recently and I’ve reached the 1 year mark.
Whipping girl is a good read, but I wish she’d release a new edition without of the NB-phobic-seeming stuff taking up so much space (not saying she is NB-phobic)
While changes are visible within months, it’s impressive how people just won’t notice even if you aren’t exactly hiding it. This is especially true for people who see you often, but I’ve seen it happen with people I hadn’t seen in a long time. Ymmv both on the amount of changes and how much people notice though. I’ve been impressed by how oblivious most people are.
I’m sure all the “states rights” people will strongly opposed such an order, by leaving the country and going to war if necessary, right?
Also got AAA, but aromantic asexual instead of andro. Nice seeing quizzes use the andro/gyne model for attraction over the hetero/homo one even if I don’t get one of those labels.
Muscle loss was one thing I worried about, but, as a non-body-builder, it hasn’t been an issue in the past ~year. I can still lift the same things I was able to before, to my surprise. Best of luck keeping strong!
Informed consent is great. I was less certain I was interested in HRT than you seem to be and if any I regret anything related to it so far is just that I didn’t start sooner. People’s fear of some cis people exploring their identity and realizing certain hormones levels don’t work for them at the cost of preventing trans people from finding ones that do work for them is absurd.
Curious how you would feel if you found out your partner of 30+ years had been hiding something like this out of fear that you would reject them?
In that case, it feels like the other two characters are metaphorical representations of the first person looking back at themselves as an egg and poking fun at how self-oblivious they were, so I don’t see how it violates such rule.
Perhaps I’m projecting though cause no one assumed I was trans afaik until after I started saying or doing things to intentionally hint that I was an I wanted to get questioned (not told I must be a certain gender or trans, but just asked if I was trying to tell them something).
I’m not sure the characters being fiction is a strong reason for the same reason “it’s just a joke” isn’t a good enough reason to justify jokes that promote harmful ideology via their assumptions. But there is certainly more wiggleroom with fictional characters and there is also the risk of trans erasure in fiction if taken too far imo.
February 71st is the same day as April 12th most years. Just realized my HRT anniversary is basically e day.
They might not believe that and just be trying to gaslight/troll.
They might have heard it’s trendy and gets you cool points and somehow don’t see how hard it could be.
They could just think trans people don’t exist, therefore all must be fake.
They could think you are a troll trying to make trans people look bad.
If you are an NB, it could be someone who doesn’t believe in NBies or certain subsets.
If you aren’t trying to transition medically, they could be transmeds.
If you suffer from things like depression, they could think you are trying to look for an excuse to blame that on.
Could be someone who is in denial themselves and part of their denial is believing certain things are normal for their agab and trans people saying it’s part of their trans experience challenges that. Similar to neurodivergent parents who deny their children’s neurodivergent because the parent think of themselfs as neurotypical.
All kinds of excuses people could have for their beliefs. Pretty much all of them boil down to some level of transphobia.
It’s impressive that some people keep a phone in good condition for that long and actively use it still. Even if the phone launched with android 7, I’d hope it at least would get an Android 8 update. Meaning a lot of phones meeting this criteria are even older.
Otoh, the fact that security update support only lasts a couple years is pretty sad. Honestly didn’t realize how long it’s been since my phone got a security update (currently android 11, originally launched with 10). Been meaning to swap to lineage or e/OS, but never got around to it, so thanks for the reminder.