WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

So when the creator comes across these memes in the wild, they know they made it rather than the meme just happening to be relatable. /j

Lots of relatable experiences itt. I’ll add a couple things

*For a school assignment, I was required to call myself a crossdresser for a day and it felt like it was a little too on-the-nose for what was mostly supposed to be a silly scarlet letter assignment.

*I realized I specifically wanted an orchi and tried looking up excuses to get one without considering side effects (didn’t realize loss of hormone production without replacement was a problem) or considering that it might somehow be related to related to gender. I had 0 clue why it was so appealing and I refused to think about that for even a second.

That’s basically how I see it.

My one food I could pretty much eat for every meal and always be fine with it and it’s rarely go a day without it xD I wouldn’t just eat it for every meal because that would be terribly unhealthy.

Otoh, there’s lots of things on the list of things I went through a period were I ate daily for a while (months or years … although many of them I’m pretty sure I got tired of things and continued eating them as part of my habits for a while…)

I personally think of them as being parts of a broader spectrum. I both have my one food I eat all the time and have for decades and then the things I go though short-term obsessions with

Is that ADHD or autism at that point?

My parents didn’t notice the tits either. I think the only person I know who I’m pretty sure has noticed on their own was my best friend (who isn’t really the type to be particularly trans-positive). I’m pretty impressed by people’s lack of awareness.

Kinda surprises me. I tried to force my parents to start the conversation by intentionally obviously wearing a sports bra and my mom pretty quickly asked me about it. Was wearing a tshirt with quite a larger neck hole though.

I think that’s at least approximately correct. Not sure I trust my judgement on my own emotions though. I still just use my birthname, boymode for work, etc and I’ve been aware I’m trans for a few years at this point. But it was over I realized I wanted an orchi and never considered that it might somehow be related to gender.

People who have clear interests that contrast my own make it much easy to realize my own thoughts are not that of a cis men. Given the pressure cis men are put under to pretend they like being cis men, I couldn’t trust them to be honest*, so seeing others’ thoughts was helpful. So thanks for saying you actually want a penis?

*sorry to anyone who I accidentally laughed because I thought you were making fun of masculinity rather than earnestly embracing it because I couldn’t imagine someone actually wanting that.

if I’m even allowed to call myself trans when it’s not exactly feasible for me to get bottom surgery.

Being trans isn’t just about surgeries. If you feel there’s a mismatch between the gender people assigned you and your actual gender or sex, you’re more than welcome to use the label if its useful for you. I know some agender people explicitly opt-out of the trans label (I used to be in that camp), and I think its fine to think “trans” doesn’t serve any useful purpose in discussions with most people and not use it if you think it’ll just confuse people more than it conveys meaningful information about yourself. It could even be context-dependent what labels you prefer, similar to how A-spec microlabels might only be something you talk about within A-spec or broadly queer communities.

Before I had any clue I was trans, I used to avoid listing “they/them” as pronouns (and therefore avoided pronouns in general) because I was worried it could be seen as taking something important for NBs and appropriating it. I don’t know if I’m seen a single NB who has ever expressed such an idea and if anything, I think people would find it more offensive to think they would be so gatekeepy.

They’re probably just being nice after all.

So glad virtual is an option and informed consent is a thing. If I had to work up the courage to actually go somewhere, who knows how much longer I’d have taken.

I’ve tried a few some different brands for that kind of thing. Found one that fits me well and comfortably and have stuck with them (enfemme, but I suspect it’s partly just normal variation in humans that leads to some people loving the other brands I tried). I didn’t experience any discomfort normally and I tucked basically all-day (not night usually) everyday for about a year before starting HRT (I probably have a high threshold for pain tho). Never tried tape.

The ones that happen to fit just barely loose enough to have a nut pop out are the worse. I’ve gotten better with technique over time, but if they don’t fit right, it’s not gonna work well ime.

I don’t use either because I don’t to things with audio, but I have Tenacity installed I think.

Why stick to just 1 video? If there aren’t at least 3 audio sources, are you even trying?

Bookmarking and sorting 7k tabs sounds awful.

It doesn’t require any specific thing. I first had a doctor try to prescribe me ADHD meds well before I started school and told my mom I would do bad in school otherwise (I didn’t do bad in school)

There’s a lot of people who are “okay” with trans people, but when you ask them about any actual policy, they side with transphobes. Many people who are self-reportedly “comfortable” with trans people still think women should be forced to use the men’s restroom, for example. They’ll support bans on coverage of medical care for trans people. They’ll continue to deadname or misgender those trans people. Etc.

So many people like to believe they’re not a bigot when they’re not. If you asked my parents if they’re racist, for example, they’d say “no” without hesitation and believe it. But then they’ll say things like black people are dangerous and assume someone is likely to kill them just because of their skin color, complain about black people using welfare and how white people are discriminated against, etc.

Some people might, but a lot of people can totally miss out. Did have one friend who thought I had already told them when I finally decided said something about it. At most, I think I made comments about how it would be considered more inappropriate for me to be topless than my brother. But I’ve made much more direct comments with others and they had no clue.

That’s seems to be the accepted stance of doctor. Basically the view seen here: https://transfemscience.org/articles/transfem-intro/

Afaik, there aren’t any scientific studies to back prog beyond it’s use for blocking T. So switching is still probably an improvement over spiro for t-blocking alone. I think it’s reasonable doctor share what medical science says (or doesn’t say) so people are aware when they are taking something that is essentially experimental at this point but to also make sure the patient knows they have that option given its a normal hormone in the human body and a lot of people have positive anecdotes (although many also try it and decide it’s not for them as well).