Yeah, I lucked out and got my dad’s “who the fuck are you to tell me who I am?” genes. So I rebelled by succeeding. And then scored another huge lucky win by bumping into my wife at a party and then working on her for 3 years to finally admit that she loved me. Those kids are going to have amazing lives and it’s 99 percent their mom being fantastic.

Well I didn’t get diagnosed until after I had kids and they started to get diagnosed, then my wife finally got diagnosed… So yeah it’s all 5 of us. But I was diagnosed with dyslexia as a kid. So my wife jumped on it early. With each kid she used a program called “Children Learn Reading” to teach them to read before kindergarten. Then she got them in a program called “Let’s Make Music” and had them playing piano by 5 or 6. Those combined with meds, has made my kids lives so much better than what I had. I was the lazy or dumb kid that wouldn’t apply himself. My kids are seen as bored geniuses, that aren’t challenged enough. The same behavior that got me yelled at and kept in from all the recesses, gets them self directed study and more interesting courses.

Everything is about optics.

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I’ve spent the last 25 years writing enterprise applications. 10 or so years ago the sdlc became “Dark Scrum” where all the trappings of scrum, expectations of waterfall and non of the prep work of waterfall. It’s an interesting system where management can demand anything and then blame the devs for any and all problems that occur because “we didn’t follow the process”. Recently I’ve been given a larger management role and kind threw the entire process out of the window. Baby, bathwater, all of it. And just went with a basic kanban style. We try to do one thing at a time and a lot of my time is spent keeping a backlog that is estimated and prioritized. We have a standup type of call on Monday and Thursday for no more than 5 minutes. (we’re a 100% remote team now, so no office)