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Cake day: August 16th, 2023
  • YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoFedibridge@lemmy.dbzer0.com•/r/Menopause suggesting Lemmy as an alternativeEnglish
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    25 days ago

    I’ve been waiting for this for so long. It’s no secret there’s mostly men on lemmy and most things gravitate towards them. At this time, I would not recommend lemmy to any of my friends who are women. I don’t think lemmy really appeals to women or has much to offer them. I hesitate to share perspectives as a woman because I know there’s a big chance it isn’t going to be taken well and won’t be welcome.

    NSFW women sex stuff

    I was downvoted before for saying I didn’t enjoy penetration. I said it hurts without lube but even with it, it doesn’t feel enjoyable and that vibrators are the only thing that feels good. I talked to another woman in that thread who enjoyed penetration and she got upvoted but I got downvoted and we weren’t even arguing, just talking about sex as a woman (it hurts for me, it does not hurt for her, turns out we had more in common beyond that). I’ve never been judged by other women for this (friends or partners), men who are my partners usually have a problem with it and I’ve had men tell me they don’t want me to have/use sex toys at all. If I talked about this on TwoX, others would either be in a similar boat or offer support. I miss being able to talk to other women online about this stuff.

  • YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoFediverse@lemmy.world•🌱The Vegan Userbase on Lemmy Has Reached 110 Users!🌱English
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    1 month ago

    Vegans on Lemmy do get harassed, they get childish carnists coming to their threads telling vegans they are going to eat even more meat to piss them off or get called all sorts of things to provoke them into engaging in a bad faith “debate.” I remember someone saying vegans are overemotional and are unable to comprehend the great logic of eating meat. They are trolls and they need to fuck off from vegan communities.

    In my personal life, I’ve had a lot of push back from my family and SO about switching to veganism. My family has tried obnoxiously to get me to eat meat, they don’t prepare my meals but felt they needed to “get these ideas out of [my] head.” And my SO makes my meals and has said it would be “easier” if I just ate what they ate especially since they find my food “gross” and “sad.” When I first went vegan my SO told me my veganism wouldn’t be a problem for them as long as I didn’t make it a problem. Shit is depressing. I pay for all groceries btw in case you were wondering about our arrangement. Sorry for ranting, it just sucks and has taken its toll.