Unrelated to the larger topic, but how do you find Endurain? I want to dump Strava, but last time I looked at self hosted Strava alternatives (maybe a year ago?), none of them really came close to parity in features.

I’ve removed a bunch of comments from this thread.

The “but” in this meme means “But there are instances where I don’t support a trans person’s identity/equal rights”. It means that there is never a scenario where you think it’s ok to suggest that trans people should have less rights than cis people, and that there is never a scenario where you think it’s ok to invalidate a trans persons identity.

If your reply is something along the signs of supporting the “but…” because you think “actually, there are some shitty trans people”, then cool, we know, but this isn’t the thread for it, and you’re pulling trans people down in a trans space, to defend a position no one was making. This isn’t that thread. This is a thread for support. So I’ve removed those “gotcha” replies.

If your reply is “actually, there are times when trans people don’t deserve equal rights or to have their identity respected”, then your comment has been removed, and you’ve been permanently banned from all blahaj spaces.

I spent my life thinking I should have been a girl/woman. One day I realised I was.

Of course, it was a bit more of a journey than that makes it sound, but that’s the gist of it

I’d argue that a company is more like someone not caring if it runs anyone over or not than someone who accidentally ran someone over. Wilful disregard rather than carelessness. But international harm is still worse than either

I dropped literally everything in your list for the reasons you outlined (except WoW, which I dropped before I knew anything about Blizzard).

But Rowling is worse than them.

Corporations are amoral, and entirely self serving. They will fuck over anyone if it earns the corporation a profit.

Rowling is not amoral. Rowling is driven by hate, and her goal is not self interest, and her harm is not indiscriminate. Her harm is targeted and deliberate, and she explicitly uses her visibility to normalise and encourage harm to the people she is targeting.

And deliberate targeted hate that tries to create more hate is worse than amoral self interest.

Somewhere along the line, I stopped wanting that version of me.

That version of me that sees a trans woman and can only offer awkward support? The loss of solidarity, and community…

That would be such a loss…

Expressing transphobia is not welcome on lemmy. You only have to look at the amount of upvotes “subtle” transphobia and “just asking questions” transphobia still gets to realise that there are still lots of transphobes around that have just learned to keep it close to their chest. They still express it through votes though

Too many people see trans people making any comment at all as something that needs to be downvoted.

lbz doesn’t do downvotes, which means communities hosted on lbz don’t do downvotes, and any downvotes received are ignored, without federating them out.

This is the third time now I’ve removed one of your comments for this kind of gatekeeping of other peoples identity. You’re no longer welcome in blahaj zone communities

To be clear, the blahaj one is for people to talk about the awful shit she’s doing and the impact it’s having on her victims. It’s not a community for people who support her or just want to have polite conversation about her that ignores the harm she is doing

What’s interesting about this, is you post it as if it’s a question, and despite getting an almost universal “Fuck no” as the answer to the question, you’re just arguing that we should do it.

If you want to do it, do it. But stop looking for validation for it. You’re asking for approval to celebrate and recognise someone who actively targets and harms trans people. You’re not going to get that approval. So either take that as the answer, or stop pretending it was ever a question.

Plus, it would help to bring in a ton of new users, to the Fediverse.

Yay, more folks who are happy to fund the erasure of trans people. Can’t wait! /s

It’s a little different for me. I transitioned 9 years ago, and I largely resolved my struggles with dysphoria.

What still gets me a little though is the life I didn’t get to live at a younger age.

And if my transition happened “when it was meant to”, that means that life was never mine even in an ideal world.

So I frame my own journey as having transitioned when I could rather than when I should. I didn’t get all of the opportunities I wish I could have, but I’m absolutely grabbing the opportunities I can now!

For me, saying that I transitioned “when I was meant to” just doesn’t land right, because I know it’s not when I was meant to. Making me wait all that time wasn’t the right thing, it wasn’t what was “meant” to be.

From my perspective, in an ideal world, “yesterday” was the time to transition. But the world isn’t ideal, and it made that impossible, so “today” is what I was able to achieve despite the world trying to get in the way! (though “today” was 9 years ago for me)

I don’t love this meme.

I prefer some variation of “The best time to do it was yesterday, the second best time to do it is today”

Which is to say, I don’t perceive that my late in life transition happened when it “meant” to. It happened when it could. And I’m so glad it happened at all! But if transphobia hadn’t have gripped the world so hard, it also wouldn’t have been as late as it was.

Welcome!

I wasn’t talking about attraction as such. Like, I won’t date people who don’t identify with queerness in some way. I’m not “queersexual” but rather, it’s a personal preference and understanding of my own needs that influences who I date above and beyond who I’m attracted to. My last boyfriend for example, I was attracted to him romantically and sexually, but he wasn’t queer, and I felt like my queerness was invisible when I was with him. And so after we broke up, I decided that I won’t enter another relationship like that.

And similarly, there are people who are technically bisexual, but who won’t date men, despite having attraction, even romantic attraction to them.

It doesn’t matter to me what words other people to describe themselves

That’s the important part!