Piefed and lemmy are both group actor based activitypub platforms, and Piefed is explicitly designed to be compatible with lemmy, simply because lemmy has the traction/momentum in the activitypub niche they both exist in.

The difference isn’t protocol based, it’s just a piefed design decision and one that could easily be changed if a dev gets the chance to put some time in to it.

Danica was the name I told myself I’d use if I ever transitioned. Then I transitioned and discovered it doesn’t fit me.

See if there’s a front runners group in your area. They’re an international queer running group.

So, here’s the thing with kids, especially queer kids.

Generally, being awkward in this situation isn’t something that comes naturally. They are taught the awkwardness.

And what you need to demonstrate to them is that you’re allowed to be imperfect, and make mistakes with words and terms, and language, but that the mistakes are just habits, and that once you strip the habits away, you see each other for who they are. The habits will sort themselves out after that.

Not sure about the “fine with learning” part. I’m fine with learning, but learning isn’t my primary motivation, but more like a bonus!

That being said, it did neatly capture why I chose CachyOS over Arch!

Lemmy doesn’t log IP addresses, and lbz doesn’t require email addresses to register (though that can make resetting passwords challenging). If you’re on lbz and you’ve registered with an email address, you’re free to remove it if you have any concerns!

when I’m feeling sad, I find myself going on r/terf_trans_alliance, and then I feel worse.

That sub exists specifically to prey on folk like you. Folk that are struggling with internalised transphobia and self worth issues.

Transphobes (and bigots in general) actively seek people they can demonstrate their bigotry against. It’s performative, to improve their in group cohesion, and it addresses their own self worth issues and let’s them feel empowered.

That sub exists purely to attract people for them to prey on.

They’re preying on you, because hurting you and folk like you brings them joy.

You stop going, because even though dealing with your own self image can be a long battle, it’s a battle you can navigate without empowering them.

I can’t even answer that question.

I knew I “should have been a girl” since just before I hit puberty. But I also knew I wasn’t. I spent several decades after that wishing things were different, including wishing I was trans so that I could access “sex change surgery”. I even tried tucking (without knowing tucking was a thing).

I grew up in country town Australia, before home internet was a thing, so I had no exposure to trans folks, or even any avenue for understanding trans folk, except for the transphobia that mainstream media put out there.

On top of that, I don’t really “get” femininity (or masculinty), and I never cared for experimenting with clothing or presentation. I felt no draw to the things that the media told me trans people all feel. So, it took me a while to get out of the cycle of “I should be, but I’m not” that I got myself stuck in.

Close to 10 years ago, I finally accepted that I’d always been a woman, and that I needed to do something about it.

So when did I realise? Either 40 years ago or 10 years ago depending on how you look at it :)

I just got my NSW gender marker updated because of this legislation change! I had GRS years ago, but even then, it was simply too onerous to change your gender marker on your NSW birth certificate, so I never bothered, given that I was able to update my passport and everything else.

My birth cert remained the one thing left, and it’s finally done too now that it’s not a gatekeeping nightmare!

Before I accepted myself, I used to dream of this sort of post singularity future.

But now… Being in the human body I was born with caused crippling dysphoria until I was able to do something about it. So now, I wonder, what most of those bodies just end up being uncomfortable and triggering dysphoria again?

Obviously, there would be some choices that wouldn’t, but I have to wonder, if the further away I got from the “base model”, the more dysphoria might come back to say hi

Instance binned!

I’ve got dark hair and white skin, and it took about a dozen or so treatments, and I’d say it got rid of 99.9% of my hair permanently. However, experience tells me most people don’t get that level of effectiveness.

YSK then that Piefed has a subscription feature

Literally wishing that I was trans so that I could access bottom surgery

this is why lemmy will never beat corporate owned services

Which famously, never shut down and take their content with them :P

You create the community on another instance. You update the lemm.ee version with a sticky post and sidebar edit to let people know the new location. Do that before lemm.ee closes down, and even people that find the lemm.ee version of the group after the instance is gone will still be able to find your new location

Well, the managed communities will pin posts and update their descriptions before the shut down happens, and those details will federate to every instance with users that subscribe to the communities.

Most people don’t start making videos to make money. In the early Tube days there was no money.

Absolutely. I’m one of them. But there’s a lot of peertube instances that serve that need.

The OP was talking about creating a moderated instance, with high production quality requirements for members, with the possibility of charging for extra upload capacity etc. And that narrows the field down to people who either make their living from producing video content, or want to make their living from producing video content. That’s the group I was talking about

PeerTube only has 1 less avenue for monetization than YT, among dozens.

Absolutely, but the one its missing is a major source of income for most professionals and semi professionals who make their living from video content. And folk who rely on YouTube advertising aren’t just going to be able to drop YouTube for Peertube whilst keeping a consistent income stream. Which means the OP (and the OP specifically, not peertube in general) will need to make space for allowing those users to exist in a way that encourages them to move to Peertube, without cutting off the income they currently make from centralised corporate platforms.

My partner and I run a peertube instance out of our own pockets, and we make videos and host other folk making videos, without caring about their quality or experience. For us, it’s about giving folk voices. But I wasn’t talking about peertube in general, or folk like myself, I was addressing the OPs situation

At the moment, its challenging for creators to generate income from Peertube. In theory, the avenue they have is through patreons and the like, but in practice, peertube doesn’t yet have the volume of users to make that work. And as a result, it’s going to be hard to use any kind of “premium/paid” tier service, simply because there won’t be many takers.

In my mind, right now, if you’re trying to attract creators, you’re going to need to reduce as many barriers as you can for them to move over. That may mean co-existing accounts on bigtech platforms and on peertube, and in terms of helping with your running costs, voluntary donations are the best way of doing it for now, until peertube gets a larger volume of users.

Either way, we spun up our own peertube instance a few weeks ago too, so welcome to the vidiverse :)

Thank you! I’ll be watching with great interest! Lots of potential :)