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Joined 3 years ago
Cake day: January 2nd, 2023
  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•I'm sorryEnglish
    46·
    7 days ago

    Putting on my instance admin hat, and my moderator hat, you are welcome here, and you are welcome to talk about your experiences here. You are one of us, and this is your space as much as anyone elses!

    Some tips though. You can add content warnings in the title. A NSFW tag helps, but you can also add in something like “CW: Surgery regret” in the title. That lets people who know it’s a triggering topic for them avoid the whole discussion, without having to click on it to find out what it’s about.

    And as I said in a reply elsewhere, you need to be careful about the language you use. You don’t have to hide your pain or trauma when talking about your own experiences and doubts, but you do need to be careful when you’re making generalisations and using language that applies to folk other than yourself. You need to make sure that your words are talking about your experience. But that goes both ways! The same care and consideration I’m asking of you when you talk about topics that can trigger other folk, is also owed to you when people are talking to you. No one gets to tell you who you are, or tell you how to feel.

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•[CW: Mentions Suicide, Surgery regret] How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself?English
    311·
    8 days ago

    Trans people do not, under any circumstances, gatekeep when you feel like a “real woman” because bottom surgery is something utterly inaccessible to most.

    Sorry, but this is simply wrong. There is a whole section of the community that does exactly that. They are known as transmedicalists. They believe that you have to have dysphoria to be trans, and that you have to badly want GRS, and do everything you can to attain it.

    For many many years, fitting this description was the only way to access medical care, as popularised by the Benjamin Standards of care. And whilst many countries have moved away from this, many have not. There are many trans communities and sub communities that absolutely judge trans people who don’t need or want GRS, because they’re perpetuating the transphobic gatekeeping that they’ve internalised in to their own self image.

    Which is to say, a key part of your suspicion is based on your own lack of exposure to harmful parts of the community, and there is a non zero chance that you’re being needlessly cruel to someone expressing their pain and vulnerability.

    Yes, it’s suspicious that someone with a brand new account appears out of nowhere, and expresses pain and distress at an experience that is uncommon in trans spaces, yet is also perceived as common by transphobes.

    But unless you know for certain that you aren’t hurting a genuine member of the community with your words, I’m going to ask that you refrain from engaging further.

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•Fetcharr - a human-developed Huntarr replacementEnglish
    13·
    15 days ago

    They do, but only by passively monitoring RSS feeds for new content that exceeds your current quality. They don’t do active upgrade searches unless you manually trigger them.

    The distinction is important if you imported some or all of your media library, rather than building it from scratch with the arr stack stuff. It also matters if you source some your content via providers that don’t have RSS feeds.

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoLinux@programming.dev•Developer Claims Photoshop Installers Now Work on Linux Using Wine
    2·
    2 months ago

    Digikam is built from the ground up to be a photo cataloger. Hierarchical tags that you can click on to expand or contract, the ability to jump from a given photo to all photos taken on the same date, or all photos in the same folder, or all photos that share a particular tag. Collapsible folders and tag structures, the ability to toggle child tag/folder recursive view on or off, image grouping (automated by filename/timestamp/burst). They also share metadata perfectly well through EXIF data, so anything I do in one is visible in the other right away.

    This is digikam

    This is the same folder in darktable

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoLinux@programming.dev•Developer Claims Photoshop Installers Now Work on Linux Using Wine
    23·
    2 months ago

    I was one of the former. Photography isn’t my job, but it’s really important to me, and photo editing was a show stopper for me for a long time. Even after I moved to Linux full time, I was using remote desktops, VMs and whatever else I could manage to get Adobe stuff working, without having to switch back to Windows. I endured, because I’d finally hit a threshold where that pain was worth putting up with in preference to Windows and its built in ads and spyware.

    But when I finally gave up on getting Lightroom working on linux, I figured I had no choice but to learn a linux compatible workflow… It was either that, or go back to windows, and that wasn’t happening…

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