It’s also not a fork

I’ve been using CachyOS for a couple of years now, so I suppose that makes it my favourite distro of 2025

I used photoprism for a long time, but when I tried immich, I dropped photoprism in an instant.

When I was 19/20 (decades ago) I moved to the city to go to University. One of my housemates came out as trans many years later, and a few years before me, but while we were in the house, both of us were closeted and in denial.

He and I used to sit on the front deck of the house, playing cards and talking in to the night. I often wonder what would have happened in both of our lives if at any point, we had have got to talking about gender, and felt comfortable coming out to each other (and ourselves) way back then.

But, we didn’t have that conversation then… We both still found our way though. You will too :)

Piefed and lemmy are both group actor based activitypub platforms, and Piefed is explicitly designed to be compatible with lemmy, simply because lemmy has the traction/momentum in the activitypub niche they both exist in.

The difference isn’t protocol based, it’s just a piefed design decision and one that could easily be changed if a dev gets the chance to put some time in to it.

Danica was the name I told myself I’d use if I ever transitioned. Then I transitioned and discovered it doesn’t fit me.

See if there’s a front runners group in your area. They’re an international queer running group.

So, here’s the thing with kids, especially queer kids.

Generally, being awkward in this situation isn’t something that comes naturally. They are taught the awkwardness.

And what you need to demonstrate to them is that you’re allowed to be imperfect, and make mistakes with words and terms, and language, but that the mistakes are just habits, and that once you strip the habits away, you see each other for who they are. The habits will sort themselves out after that.

Not sure about the “fine with learning” part. I’m fine with learning, but learning isn’t my primary motivation, but more like a bonus!

That being said, it did neatly capture why I chose CachyOS over Arch!

Lemmy doesn’t log IP addresses, and lbz doesn’t require email addresses to register (though that can make resetting passwords challenging). If you’re on lbz and you’ve registered with an email address, you’re free to remove it if you have any concerns!

when I’m feeling sad, I find myself going on r/terf_trans_alliance, and then I feel worse.

That sub exists specifically to prey on folk like you. Folk that are struggling with internalised transphobia and self worth issues.

Transphobes (and bigots in general) actively seek people they can demonstrate their bigotry against. It’s performative, to improve their in group cohesion, and it addresses their own self worth issues and let’s them feel empowered.

That sub exists purely to attract people for them to prey on.

They’re preying on you, because hurting you and folk like you brings them joy.

You stop going, because even though dealing with your own self image can be a long battle, it’s a battle you can navigate without empowering them.

I can’t even answer that question.

I knew I “should have been a girl” since just before I hit puberty. But I also knew I wasn’t. I spent several decades after that wishing things were different, including wishing I was trans so that I could access “sex change surgery”. I even tried tucking (without knowing tucking was a thing).

I grew up in country town Australia, before home internet was a thing, so I had no exposure to trans folks, or even any avenue for understanding trans folk, except for the transphobia that mainstream media put out there.

On top of that, I don’t really “get” femininity (or masculinty), and I never cared for experimenting with clothing or presentation. I felt no draw to the things that the media told me trans people all feel. So, it took me a while to get out of the cycle of “I should be, but I’m not” that I got myself stuck in.

Close to 10 years ago, I finally accepted that I’d always been a woman, and that I needed to do something about it.

So when did I realise? Either 40 years ago or 10 years ago depending on how you look at it :)

I just got my NSW gender marker updated because of this legislation change! I had GRS years ago, but even then, it was simply too onerous to change your gender marker on your NSW birth certificate, so I never bothered, given that I was able to update my passport and everything else.

My birth cert remained the one thing left, and it’s finally done too now that it’s not a gatekeeping nightmare!

Before I accepted myself, I used to dream of this sort of post singularity future.

But now… Being in the human body I was born with caused crippling dysphoria until I was able to do something about it. So now, I wonder, what most of those bodies just end up being uncomfortable and triggering dysphoria again?

Obviously, there would be some choices that wouldn’t, but I have to wonder, if the further away I got from the “base model”, the more dysphoria might come back to say hi

Instance binned!

I’ve got dark hair and white skin, and it took about a dozen or so treatments, and I’d say it got rid of 99.9% of my hair permanently. However, experience tells me most people don’t get that level of effectiveness.

YSK then that Piefed has a subscription feature

Literally wishing that I was trans so that I could access bottom surgery

this is why lemmy will never beat corporate owned services

Which famously, never shut down and take their content with them :P