So… who’s outbidding them? Someone from tankiejerk? Or are their being taken over by lemmygrad, to be introduced to Socialism with Dessaline characteristics?

I don’t want to represent or speak for you, I want you to speak your own truth, and listen to that of others. I also never said that it’s “all women’s fault”, I’m saying that generalised enmity is counterproductive.

I’m saying that we all have a part of the puzzle and if we all manage to chip in instead of villainising each other in essentialist terms, things would move along a lot faster. I’m an Anarchist, not an incel.

you scream from the rafters that men are hurt to, but NEVER when I asked for fucking help!

They were. They were absolutely hurt and damaged when they were not able to help you because they internalised a patriarchal narrative: “Men are perpetrators, not victims”. It’s there to replace camaraderie with hierarchy, institute a pecking order. It does not serve men a bit, hierarchy never does any good.

These two things – you not getting help from men, and men being hurt – are not at odds with each other. They’re causally connected.

Do you seriously believe that there’s not a single man, in the whole wide world, who has your back?

I was a young man who was sexually assaulted, and by a woman, and I still know that doesn’t mean that it’s equal. It’s people like you who de-legitimize what I went through by making it seem like a game of Brinkmanship with women, when in reality it was the women I spoke to who got me through it, and the men who asked if it was possible for me, as a man, to be raped, and then mocked me for it.

And what I’m talking about doesn’t invalidate that for even a second.

I can’t relate to it because male culture doesn’t work like that over here but, sure, it sucks. Still doesn’t make sense to ignore psychological violence in the overall picture, though. I’d call the stuff the men display there narrative violence: They internalised that they can never be victims, and then accosted you with their self-perception.

They are reminded that if they wanted to talk about that, they were more than welcome, but a thread about a woman who was talking about her sexual assault isn’t the place to ‘what about us.’

This isn’t one of those threads. Yet what did you do? We had a thing going on, there, there was banger music. Seriously if you haven’t yet listen to it. Use the UK subtitles.

The only place I know on lemmy on which it’s possible to have a whole thread about this is !mensliberation@lemmy.ca. Press doesn’t like to talk about it, presumably because of a predictable “what about the women” pushback, so it never comes up in the news communities. Plenty of sociological research exists, though.

Also cool dodge of having your entire argument torn apart only to abandon it and switch to a different one.

I didn’t want to go into the weeds of how BKA statistics are police statistics and in no way, shape, or form, suitable for anything without taking both the actual criminal statistics (cases brought to trial as well as convictions) and other surrounding factors such as under/overreporting, current force focus, etc, into consideration. According to police statistics, if you report your phone stolen and then retract that because you found it again, that’s a theft.

I said women can talk about being victims of violence and men always do what you’re doing right now.

When men talk about being victims of psychological violence, what happens then? That they have been driven into depression, even into being violent, by an intimate parter, parent, or such?

How do people react? How did you react?

If you start a sentence with “all men” then you should take a step back and say “fucked-up men” or suchlike, is all I’m saying. That was even three words, not five. You can also say something like “men should speak up more often”, that’s a general call to action, and not a blanket verdict on individuals who might be reading it. The “yes all men” of this song (total banger btw).

This is a general norm I apply to everyone regarding every topic: Don’t paint groups with broad, antagonistic, brushes. It never does any good, no matter who does it to whom or whatever the excuses are one might be able to come up with to justify it. The means are vile, the ends at best neutral, there’s no benefit to be had.

Also side note at least according to the statistics over here in Germany partner violence, if psychological violence is taken into account, is almost exactly even among hetero couples and, in the overwhelming number of cases, mutual: Assholes hook up with assholes they just, statistically, express it differently. Things might very well look differently where you’re from, another reason to not generalise.

and it just went on and on trying to placate the inevitable furious white men in the comments section.

I think that’s, usually, not necessary. The “going on at length” part, that is. People want to know you’re not literally Andrea Dworkin, trying to actively reinforce the toxic AF “women are always victims, men are always perpetrators” narrative etc, but it takes like five words to make that clear.

Complications might arise when you’re trying to simultaneously assuage hurt men and misandrists. I fear it’s either “‘kill all men’ is toxic” or “‘kill all men’ is a valid expression of your anger, let it all out”, there’s no real space for compromise, there.

That all said your post and this reply probably wouldn’t have happened on pixelfed so your point stands. Disengagement is perfectly valid.

To be hyper clear for you:

Left WING is not leftIST

LeftIST is left WING

Whether -ist or -wing doesn’t matter both still contain the word “left”, don’t they? Therefore, they are either anti-capitalist, or they’re confused. And, yes, much of US politics is terribly confused. The moderate left, in the US, begins with AOC and Bernie, both solid socdems, radical is far a ways off. The Democrat establishment, by and large, supports the oligarchy, they don’t even begin to be on the left.

Don’t expect lefties from elsewhere to play into that confusion.

For example fiscal centrists who are socially progressive. You may call that a false leftist, but I’d just say they’re a mild left wing voter.

So you would call Peter Thiel a leftist? A literal billionaire? A literal neo-feudalist? Because he happens to be gay and proud of it?

You are taking a word that has been, since its literal inception (seating arrangements in the French national assembly, as seen from the lectern), been connected to the struggle of the masses vs. nobility/oligarchy, and you’re attaching orthogonal meanings to it. You cannot be leftist if you’re on the side of the oligarchy, if you’re a capitalist.

“Socially progressive”. You already have a term for it. Good. Use it. Don’t dilute other terms, or even allow them to be turned into their opposite.

centrists

There’s no centre point between “believe in god” and “deny god”: Either you do or you don’t, and anything agnostic is not in the centre, it’s not a compromise, but off the axis altogether.

IDGAF about what the US is cooking up when it comes to political definitions, much less so when they disagree with the rest of the world. Anti-capitalism is necessary to be on the left, it’s not negotiable.

Just like you wouldn’t call someone who denies god a Christian. There’s no “but they deny god a bit less than Richard Dawkins, so they’re more Christian”: No, they’re still denying god, they can’t be Christian. If they consider themselves Christian despite denying god, then it stands to reason that they’re quite confused about what being a Christian entails, don’t you think?

They very much expect the SPD to defend things like co-determination laws to the death, though. They also expect the SPD to implement referenda that say that landlords with over 1000 apartments should be expropriated, that they’re dragging their feet on that kind of stuff (“but the markets might get uneasy and that would have consequences”) is one of the reasons why they don’t poll well.

Can you imagine a US city the size of Berlin pushing through a referendum to expropriate landowners? That’s how far apart the overton windows are. There’s hardly even overlap.

Adam Smith, in modern terms, would be a social liberal. Probably some kind of ordoliberal. It’s Marx where the modern definition of capitalism comes from and it’s pretty much “what capitalists do, systemically, to stay in power”: Accumulate their capital, evade regulation, generate monopolies, seek rents, etc.

Socdems are leftist, even if you might disagree with their whole non-revolutionary approach. Definitely more leftist than the billionaire-creating CCP which yes is in the G20. China is part of that club. The whole EU, constitutionally, is not capitalist but a social market economy.

I can’t be Left wing unless I want to destroy capitalism?

Yes. Yes indeed you can’t. How to go about that is up for grabs but if you think that leftism is all about preserving the system that allows oligarchs to accumulate more capital and power, to allow a minority to exploit the majority, I don’t know what to tell you.

…besides that you’re probably American because only y’all are so damn confused about the whole topic.

Even if you can (e.g. change your projection matrix in a custom shader) you don’t want to mess with it because a lot of things assume the standard is used. The proper, unconfusing, way to deal with it is to import/export to a format that itself has a defined coordinate system, like gltf.

I’d like to interject here for a second and point out that “Billionaire-proofing XYZ” is both a praxis and narrative we should be doing way more often. Forget about socialising healthcare, just billionaire-proof it.

I’m still waiting for someone to do an x-up coordinate system just to mess with people.

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With that out of the way, most of your suggestions boil down to “use lemmy.world instead”.

It’s where big replacement communities happen to be, that’s all there is to it. Avoiding centralisation is a good thing in general but “tired of .ml mods? Here’s alternatives” isn’t the right time to go for it I think. Maybe the admins can come up with a scheme to round-robin disable community creation or something, to spread things out. Also, community migration is in the pipeline software-wise that would help a lot.