Oh absolutely. I think for many of us it’s mostly just learned anxiety from being mistreated when displaying femininity growing up. Though even though I’m long since done with ever doing boymode I do every once in a while get a death glare when I go to try on pants.

My friend recently had a kid and got really confused because the abbreviation is used that way in parenting groups. She thought it was a bit odd that she seemed to be one of only a few women in some pregnancy communities.

On calorie cutting, it’s a trade off. It’s hard to build muscle at a deficit. And if you’re early (first two years or so) of hormones you should be eating when hungry because your body needs calories to grow breasts. Bulk-cut cycles are great for muscle building, and you can tailor the lengths to be either net neutral or net negative.

Sitting with hunger means fat is burning. But hunger while your muscles are aching means your body is telling you to eat so it can build them. Getting in touch with your body like that is very helpful. And you can even start to notice stuff like “hey my tits are feeling odd and I’m unexpectedly ravenous, I guess they’re about to grow a bit despite being 10 years into hrt”.

So, biggest question is if you’re on hormones. If you’re at female hormone levels: full body workout, though if you’re new to those levels you’re going to want to focus less on the upper body than lower body and cardio. Female hormone levels will mean that muscle you build is feminine and as your body cycles through fat and muscle (it’s always doing that) it will build them in feminine ways. If you aren’t on hormones yet, just skip the upper body entirely and put extra effort into hips and butt exercises like squats and cycling. Also cardio, you’re always going to want more cardio.

Targeted fat burning is a myth. If you have female hormone levels it is incredibly difficult to build so much muscle that it looks masculine without steroids.

I’m a huge fan of bicycling because I find it fun and it ensures my ass and thighs (and calves) are amazing, and is also a means of transportation. It also provides a good core workout. Push ups will improve pecs, arms, and back, and pull ups will compliment those gains. Squats are also great for the butt and thighs. That all should work fine unless you want to invest in weights, at which point deadlifting would also be a good choice.

In general fitness looks good on everyone

I need to look to see if nobara has something similar. I mostly use 2 displayports for my monitors, but occasionally also want to use an hdmi for my tv, at which point it wigs the fuck out

The other problem is that even this gets turned into propaganda against us and a tool to target us

2 weeks on 2 off is common as is 3 on 1 off. But it’s the sort of thing you can experiment with

I find if I really want it to go crazy I have to cycle it and take it rectally

There’s a decent chance they’re going to take that hit regardless

Damn your mom sounds based as hell

Nah, name yourself Cybele

I’ve met a few. Funny enough, it’s the really cliche names for cis women that I don’t know trans women with. Like Emily, Megan, or Sarah

And eventually you realize that your style and your type are the same…

Good for them, with reasonable testing and precautions in the modern day there’s no reason to prohibit them. They’re no worse than swingers clubs

Star trek is one of the first TV series to get a serious fanfic community. It’s just that that happened in the zine era.

Good luck and congrats

Congrats on getting to where you are and good luck getting where you’re going

Well Nissa, you’re never going to find out without trying. I personally think that showing this post to your wife may help convey your feelings to her, though depending on what you find it may or may not impact your relationship.

So I’m just going to start by talking about how I found myself. I’m a few years younger than you, and I transitioned a little over a decade ago. I had similar childhood desires for experimentation, though I was never brave enough to do it openly even as a joke. By my mid teens I was questioning my gender, and began using sexualization of it as a means of attempting to silo ir off (that’s absolutely not how I would have framed it at the time, but at rhe time I thought all boys just really hated not having breasts so I was very in denial then). I was constantly maladaptively daydreaming, often imagining myself becoming female through convoluted means. But at the same time I was large and masculine and complaining I wasn’t allowed to wear a beard to high school.

At 18 I did some reflection and came to the conclusion I was bigender. I then proceeded to decide I’d hide the feminine portion of that forever. I was a good catholic kid from a swing state that was headed red, and while I was progressive as all hell, I worried about how others would see me. This was before most people had seen trans people in a positive light. But I kept struggling with it. No amount of trying to hide it or ignore it made it actually go away. I occasionally experimented with using a female name online (yeah it’s now my govvie so I’m not using it here) and it felt uncomfortably right. I experimented with stuff like painting my toenails and shaving my legs (I still have the scars lol). I grew my hair out, but didn’t shave my beard.

Then when I was 19 I saw a post by a trans woman that made me feel like it was something I could be. She was just kinda normal. She was gay and not super femme. She’d be cliche today, but I’d read so much about gatekeeping and RLE that I’d just assumed that even if I was a trans woman I’d have to lie to doctors, acr more feminine than I felt, pretend I just wanted a good husband, and completely abandon my life. For the next two months I was seriously thinking about my gender and seriously asking myself how real the male side of me was. I used a female name online. I seriously thought about my dysphoria. And one week while my parents were out of town I decided to experiment (in retrospect no idea why I didn’t do it in my dorm a month earlier)

I went to a Walmart in the middle of the night and bought some makeup (it was hideous on me lol). And I got supplies to make breast forms. They were certainly of a weird quality, accidentally too big and they began leaking, but they were appropriately dense and jiggly and with them taped to my chest, I couldn’t go back. The night I tried them I did some real thinking. It clicked that the reason I’d always been unhappy crossdressing was that it made me too aware of my masculine body, and that that’s what I had an issue with. That night I realized that while I thought I was genderfluid the times I felt male I really just wasn’t feeling particularly dysphoric. That night I accepted that I was a binary trans woman and that I needed to transition sooner rather than later.

The next year was a struggle against mental health, fear, and life. But within a year of that fateful night I began hrt. Everything afterwards are different stories. Life during and after transition have been hard, but they’ve been a lot better than a life spent struggling and wishing I could actually like who I am.

I’m happy to talk more if you’d like. I’m not saying where you’re headed, just telling you what my path was. Good luck, this won’t be easy no matter what you find, but not looking won’t be easy either.

Welcome and go fuck yourself /s

Geordi’s blindness is a plot point at least once in an episode that’s basically exactly what people act like episodes involving queerness are. Where he has to hold a eugenicist’s hand through accepting that he doesn’t mind that he was born blind and that he even has some advantages thanks to his visor. Don’t get me wrong, it was a very good episode, and people did need it laid out like that, but it’s very much not the “we’ve moved beyond such concerns” in a way that say having a ranking officer use a wheelchair would be.

I will say something they did right was that his visor gives him headaches. It’s very in line with what folks with cochlear implants or very strong eyeglass prescriptions describe.