I totally understand where you are coming from. I think we are at different points of our journey and just have a different perspective on it. A few years ago I probably felt a lot more like you do now.

For me that meant being in constant conflict with my own body though and feeling like if I had just transitioned earlier I could have accepted myself. And I think that I always thought that accepting my body was always just going to work by me transitioning and getting a completely different body. Nowadays I’m much more OK with me not changing my body but trying to accept it with its flaws and its ambiguity.

Wtf? Are you trying to berate us how to fight for our rights now?

Sure, it is deeply unfair how transphobia hinders us to be ourselves and makes us so ashamed of ourselves. And on top of that many of us also feel a lot of internal pressure of going against the shame and transphobia. I feel like this meme is a good way of alleviating at least some of this pressure. And saying “the best time of transitioning was yesterday” would make me feel bad about myself because it gives in to that pressure.

YES! Thank you <3

I struggled a lot with feeling regret that I didn’t transition earlier and being jealous of younger trans people. But doing therapy for many years I now know that I wouldn’t have been able to transition earlier due to my mental state at that time. It is totally fine to transition later and also to do it super slowly like me. Nowadays I’m just happy to be myself and that’s all I need :)

Dude, I wasn’t saying you aren’t supportive enough. Just, that you are taking up too much space! This day is (was) literally meant to be a celebration of trans people and their struggles and you try to make it about yourself. So yes, it would be exactly the right occasion to for one day validate us. And if you don’t want to, then just shut up.

This is about trans visibility and you make it all about yourself and your anecdotes :(

I chose Flora because I love plants :)

What others?

In my personal experience, HRT has been great, but really didn’t turn into another gender. I’ve taken estrogen for over half a decade now and am still figuring out who I am…

Any recommendations? :)

https://transfemscience.org/ for anyone who doesn’t know it

Aww, thanks for posting this!!

That’s a beautiful dress that fits you really well. I haven’t dared to put on any dresses for years and now they don’t fit me anymore. Seeing you makes me wanna get and wear a dress, too :)

I’ve tried all of the above and can confirm that indeed being a gay women feels best to me :)

Well, that’s probably only true for some people and only for a certain period after coming out to yourself. Sure, it was euphoric feeling seen in my gender identity when I faced misogyny for the first few times. But once I felt more at home in my gender identity, it wasn’t pleasant anymore.

I actually know plenty of cis straight women who are repeatedly seeking out men that treat them awfully because they think they don’t deserve anything else. I would so far as to say that straight culture is based on misogyny.

Less so with friends, because most of them are queer and/or trans themselves. But sometimes I have that same thought regarding all the other people I know, like my family, flatmates, or just strangers…

I feel like these are all things that I also go through as a (probably mostly???) binary trans person. I don’t really know who I want to be yet and have to discover this, too. I think it is always as much about finding yourself as it is about finding the right gender and gender expression.

On days when I feel confident in myself, I also enjoy this very specific mood of nonconforming and messing with people’s perception of gender :)

Would be great if you wanted to post here!!

Non-binary and trans are not separate concepts though. I identify being trans, but that doesn’t mean I have to be super binary. And the struggles my non-binary friends face are also mostly the same. It is certainly harder to use they/them, neopronouns or no pronouns. But I can still relate with that struggle very much and support wherever I can.

But I agree that it is hard to relate to most trans memes posted here. They are often very binary and rooted in gender stereotypes. But I think this isn’t a you-problem and more of a problem of this specific lemmy community and various trans spaces online. As a trans person, I’d wish there would be more nuanced and relatable takes, not so much idealization of cat girls and anime…

Regarding the OP, I wouldn’t be interacting with strangers like this because I’m socially too anxious.

I think even orally taking bioactive estrogen is not ideal because the body tries to filter it out. So when taking estrogen orally you need a much higher dosage then via injections or gels. With plant hormones you’d need an even higher dosage than that…

Hm, to me this feels like it’s about patriarchal power and that it is therefore inherently violent language.

This is not true. It isn’t any prove that people that weigh more than the “healthy” range are less healthy. That is just more stigma against fat people. Obesity as a concept is deeply intervowen with stigma.

I can recommend the podcast “Maintenance Phase”, where the hosts tackle these misconceptions and the stigma with deep dives into the actual research. Most of the debate about health is just bullshit and more about normativity and power than it is about health.