That image really resembles John Billingsley. I was certain he played phlox.

I need more garashir in my life

Which is why I’m sharing a coping skill that works for me.

I don’t say that, especially not in response to someone sharing something that’s upsetting them, but it feels like there’s a connection for me at least. I’m an American immigrant in Germany and there’s a huge cultural difference in both mood (unrelated to things like depression or anxiety) and optimism between the two countries. I tried to adjust how I talk about my expectations to better fit in for a while, but it was stressing me the fuck out. When I stopped verbalizing negative expectations as much (I still do express pessimism, but only about things that I’m actually pessimistic about), I experienced fewer of them. I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, choosing to express happiness created more happiness and choosing to express doubt created more doubt.

I thought that was just being raised catholic

Someone once said to me “I didn’t know you had ADHD! I thought you were just scatterbrained and disorganized and fidgety and loud and excitable,” and I still think about that.

That’s a standard feature of gods though. At least the sun is (mostly) predictable.

Wait, what? I missed a fan discussion or two.

Hey, I don’t actually have any responsibilities right now! Except planning my lessons for next week, but I’ve got time. I guess I could also do the dishes or hang the laundry or email my advisor about my thesis topic…

Well shit.

Ooh! Are you watching voyager for the first time?!

Yeah, I’ve cleaned out dishtraps in restaurants, it’s gotta be similar. I find that less gross to clean that than poop of any kind.

That means you just watch DS-9, right?

Katjes has got ya

Having a therapist with ADHD is well worth the scheduling mishaps, in my experience. My ADHD therapist generally gave me the same advice as everyone else at its core, but broke it down for me in ways that made it actually useful.

If you’re removing distractions, you should probably also remove smartphones /tablets/smartwatches/whatever else people might have. But again, even if people try to remove my distractions, I’ll entertain myself. I personally like to guess and check cube roots, which is much easier to do with paper and pencil, but can be done without. It’s an effective way to kill time.

It’s always hardest to find something the first time I lose it. Now I know that I’m the kind of asshole who takes my glasses (that I need to see with any accuracy) off and puts them on top of the fridge, higher than my eyeline, but I honestly didn’t expect such sabotage from my brain.

I’d be careful with diagnosis in the US right now, given RFK Jr’s remarks about ADHD work camps and autism cures.

Ewww, even if I were a Star Wars fan, I feel like it originating with thatcherites would ruin the pun fully for me

That’s psychological, the important things for fullness are fat, protein, and fiber. You can get all of those through vegetables, but it’s easy to convince your brain you’re not full. I don’t automatically feel full if I don’t eat hot food, so I have to be a little aware of it on super hot days. But it’s easy enough to tally up what I’ve actually eaten vs what exercise I’ve done and that helps my body realize that it is sated.

It’s more than just pain.

I’m a pretty advanced masochist, but there’s a difference between being water boarded by your spouse in your home according to guidelines you’ve agreed upon in advance and with a safeword and safe gesture, and being tortured by someone who expects to dispose of your body later.