We can still provide unique insight and perspective on the problems; seeing the matrix code of gender helps clearly see and deconstruct those gender norms. But you’re correct on offering solutions that aren’t shedding masculinity

One week before coming out at work (scheduled and planned with HR), chatting with some ladies at team happy hour and just fitting into the conversation so naturally that one of them said “[dead name], you’re the solution to men”

I nearly spit out my drink.

This is just a transition timeline