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    17 hours ago

    Same to you. Claiming to have autism or complex trauma is not a get-out-of-jail-free card to be rude to others and accusing them of -isms out of the blue.

    And no, you were not quoting me. “Controlling yourself” is not the same as “fearing to be not in control”, because the latter extends to your surrounding and nearly always involves others around you wether you intend it or not. And besides that, I stand by my comment that people with trauma have a responsibility to not inflict it onwards onto others, as many sadly do.



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    18 hours ago

    Come on, what is the purpose of lashing out like that? I said nothing of the sort, no need to insult me 🤨

    And anyway, my comment was mostly about not potentially inflicting causes of your trauma on others. Because that is what usually happen when people fear not being in control… they try to control others once they have the means to do so.



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    2 days ago

    I would start with questioning if that feeling is really individuality and self-expression, or rather a fear of not being in control. All too often it is the latter, especially with artists and people of similar “individualistic” mindsets (and “nest builders”). This very common toxic mindset is also problematic inside communities when a sub-group bands together to push their specific ideas and expects others to submitt to them.