I’m not the best at talking but my DMs are open if you ever wanna talk. There’s also the matrix which has lots of people in it, including some people who have done bottom surgery

You ever been on an instance that doesn’t have their own rules?

Edit: And it’s hardly flipping our shit to ban people who dehumanize us or spread anti trans propaganda.

I recommend https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/ Cozy queer instance with quick moderation, and open to allies as well

Ah, yeah, we do block instances. Only transphobic ones or ones that don’t moderate however.

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/

You don’t get the point of the instance. That sports thing is deliberately pushed by the alt right because it gets people riled up, it was literally a non issue until they started bringing it up (and lying about it, making it seem like a bigger issue than it really is). There are not a lot of trans women and we largely don’t compete at a professional level. We have to keep hearing this tired old debate over and over, and so on blåhaj, which is supposed to be a safe space, we simply ban all alt right rhetoric targeting us rather than engage in it.

Do you know how often someone shows up and randomly brings up some unrelated alt right talking point? In an unrelated post? Yeah this is not us being sensitive, this is other people not understanding what it means to be a minority being specifically targeted to create engagement. We can’t all expend all of our energy all of the time to rebuke every single argument. That effort would legitimately be inhuman

Yeah. Before I started using lemmy and matrix more I was on discord a lot, and some of the mods there are rather shitty I have to say. Many even think they are allies despite allowing and defending all sorts of transphobic rhetoric like AGP etc.

Blåhaj has been such a relief in that sense. The only instance I know for sure has my back 100%. No “allies” telling me what is and is not transphobic

I mean by queer people, and not to call someone gay in the sense that they are sexually and romantically attracted to people of the opposite gender. More in that a particular thing, action, or whatever is gay. I see plenty of other trans people f.ex relating to the term gay in memes regardless of their sexuality. Stuff like that. Of course insisting someone is gay because they are queer would be rude. No one should have a label forced on them

Biphobia has always been so strange for me, in the same way that breaking the egg prime directive is strange to me (if you are familiar with the term), or erasing asexual people, or ignoring or saying intersex people are an “exception” etc. Let people label themselves.

That’s why I like the term queer! And I’ve noticed quite a few people have started using gay as an umbrella term in certain contexts

Freeze it around an ice cream stick and have yourself a boycecream! (don’t)

Ah yes, when the organizations sanitized out trans people, an integral part of stonewall, that gave us plenty of rights /s

Absolutely! Solidarity is key.

Also, sexuality often being defined not just by who you are attracted to but also who you are means that many straight trans people might have thought of themself as gay before they realized they were trans, or others might perceive them as being a gay person, or they themselves might have unresolved feelings about their sexuality still. It can get complicated

I like some of the new terms trying to make sexuality only about who you are attracted to. Makes way more sense imo

Edit: I say this because it came to mind when you said that most of us are LGB, but in many ways we are even more tied up with the LGB than we might first think

That was quick <3

Oh? I’ve seen someone else have issues as well. Will bring it up with Ada.

I don’t currently recommend making matrix.org accounts as they don’t prioritize protecting their users from spam, but there are ways to deal with the spam by using certain clients and adding ban lists. Users with chat.blahaj.zone accounts get spam removed automatically thanks to Kaity and Ada.

You can come ask questions on the matrix if you want! Lots of people there with experience! (we have a HRT room)

I wrote a guide here on lemmy a while ago: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22251406

And here are more links on DIY: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/19393848

Generally doing DIY should be pretty cheap if you go for monotherapy by doing injections

🫂

Congrats!

It’s been a few years now, but I remember mostly finding the frequent checkpoints and quick respawning made it mostly unstressful for me. There were some very exciting sequences however. Maybe I should try it again

Hmm might work on me

I went over some lessons talking about raising the larynx at first, but got discouraged and focused on some other stuff. I feel I’m a bit better equipped now to just work on that, so thank you for the great video <3

Also helps to hear your one year progress

Yeah that for sure passes! How did you practice for this, if I can ask? I can get the pitch down at this point I think, but stuff like intonation is harder

Thank you for sharing your experience <3

Yeah this is more or less what I’m hoping to one day get. It all sounds so very affirming, even the peeing yourself easier part haha :P

Best of luck with the insurance situation, btw