• rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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    You know, I always thought that “bigger dick tops” didn’t make much sense. Obviously it’s a power thing, and if you’re into that have fun, but otherwise if you want to maximize pleasure for both parties I’d assume that a lot of the time when you’re doing anal the smaller dick is more pleasurable.

    Plus I bet most of the time when two partners with dicks are involved, they’re taking turns anyway.

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      it really depends a lot on the person. I personally have a really tight ass, and it’s difficult for me to loosen up, so I definitely prefer a smaller dick. however, I’ve known and dated plenty of “size queens” who prefer larger dicks, they like the feeling of “fullness.”

      also you should not bet that they’re taking turns lol, there’s a lot of queers who are pure bottoms that never top ever, and there’s many pure tops who never want to bottom.

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        Sure, different strokes for different folks etc., but I think it holds well as a standard assumption. Definitely talk about that beforehand, though, especially if you’re a pure bottom or top or if it would be a dealbreaker for you if your partner was a pure bottom or top.

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      I think you’d be surprised by how many people are solely tops or bottoms, or at least have a significant leaning one way or the other. The trans girls I’ve been with* have all been significantly submissive and bottom-leaning and had no interest in being dominant or topping.

      *actually slept with, not including those I just flirted with

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      Right? I’m into minotaurs and shit on paper, but IRL I can only handle so much.