Thanks so much. I have a lot to learn. And I don’t ‘want to know so badly’. I just want to know what I’m supposed to know. She’s never communicated a huge amount about anything - often just a few words and then I’m expected to understand and I’m worried I’ll miss something not knowing the trans world. I’m terrified that if I ask her questions it will come across as challenging or unsupportive. She suffers from anxiety and low confidence already. But she doesn’t really have any real life friends, so I know I have to be there however I can.
Honestly, that’s a great question to ask her. She will share what she knows and feels comfortable sharing.
Another great option would be seeing if there is a queer bookstore near you. If there is, I would ask the people there about some books you can read, there are plenty aimed at parents of queer people who need a primer on the terminology.
Honestly, so many of us have parents that don’t accept us, so being willing to learn is already great. Maybe also keep an eye out for how you can help and support any friends she brings home, or try to get involved in your local queer community. I find that a lot of queer people don’t have many accepting parental figures in their life and just inviting some local queer kids over for dinner every now and again could really change lives. (And as a plus, being around queer people will teach you the lingo over time.)
Thanks so much. I have a lot to learn. And I don’t ‘want to know so badly’. I just want to know what I’m supposed to know. She’s never communicated a huge amount about anything - often just a few words and then I’m expected to understand and I’m worried I’ll miss something not knowing the trans world. I’m terrified that if I ask her questions it will come across as challenging or unsupportive. She suffers from anxiety and low confidence already. But she doesn’t really have any real life friends, so I know I have to be there however I can.
Honestly, that’s a great question to ask her. She will share what she knows and feels comfortable sharing.
Another great option would be seeing if there is a queer bookstore near you. If there is, I would ask the people there about some books you can read, there are plenty aimed at parents of queer people who need a primer on the terminology.
Honestly, so many of us have parents that don’t accept us, so being willing to learn is already great. Maybe also keep an eye out for how you can help and support any friends she brings home, or try to get involved in your local queer community. I find that a lot of queer people don’t have many accepting parental figures in their life and just inviting some local queer kids over for dinner every now and again could really change lives. (And as a plus, being around queer people will teach you the lingo over time.)