As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.
I’m very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.
Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they’re literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you’re telling me that men don’t have a problem??
I genuinely don’t understand that need they have to defend men…
Let’s be for real, gay men are less misogynistic than straight cis men.
Only straight cis men benefit from the patriarchy that’s why gay men get it, they’ve suffered the backlash.
Now straight men are seeing the world change for equality and they feel threatened to lose their privileges.
Gay men absolutely benefit from the patriarchy. Gay male couples on average earn substantially more than the average straight couple, while lesbian couples make substantially less than the average straight couple.
Do gay men benefit in all the same ways as straight men? No. But they do benefit.
You know what? I get it. You’re venting. This is a safe a space for trans women and I may be queer but I have no business questioning your experience.
You could word this differently, say the same thing and get zero pushback from your friends or the community imho. Not every day is a good day for wording things carefully though.