As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.
I’m very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.
Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they’re literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you’re telling me that men don’t have a problem??
I genuinely don’t understand that need they have to defend men…
Men as a group have systemic privilege and as a member of an oppressed group, “punching up” is a good thing.
But particularly when you’re in a queer context, when you are complaining about men, it’s not simply punching up. You’re also hitting out at your peers, you’re hitting out at the gender diverse men that are also part of your community.