As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.
I’m very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.
Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they’re literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you’re telling me that men don’t have a problem??
I genuinely don’t understand that need they have to defend men…
And when people say stuff like “I hate white people” or “white people are the worst” ? Do you think that’s justified? I sure do. It’s about being able to vent about the dominant culture and the people who support it. If someone were to say “not all white people” it’d indicate to me that they’re not on the same page and maybe not someone to let my guard down around.
I tend to believe that it is possible to vent without resorting to racism. Especially when things like culture and ethnicity are used as distractions from the actual problems that make people’s lives worse. It is the exact same kind of distraction as “the job market is bad because Mexicans are stealing all the jobs!” -> then some people start “venting” about the “lazy job stealing Mexicans”.
If you want to vent, vent about the actual problems. Like “capitalism is the worst” or “I hate corrupt politicians”, or whatever.
Similarly with gender, the patriarchy - the oppressive system of power, is the problem, not the actual gender that the people pushing that system tend to have. It is misdirected rage.