• compostgoblin@slrpnk.netOP
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      4 months ago

      It’s actually really validating for you to say that, thank you! For so long I thought that every guy was secretly disappointed that they hadn’t been born a girl

      • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        4 months ago

        I think part of why trans folks end up with this misconception is that there are a bunch of cishet guys who’d happily be a girl for a day. But it’s usually for sexual reasons only (I get to touch boobs!) and they definitely want to change back at the end. Whereas I was always fine with the concept of “being changed into a girl indefinitely” but it was usually as a thing outside my control, so I didn’t have to consider wanting it.

    • GaMEChld@lemmy.worldBanned from community
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      4 months ago

      Oh absolutely, how lonely I felt having undiagnosed ADHD for 30+ years. I never knew why I felt so misunderstood until I realized what was making me different from everyone else. The past 4 years post diagnosis has been revelation after revelation as I recontextualize my entire life.

      I wouldn’t wish that feeling on anyone.