Wow that’s so true. I am cis and there is no way such a thought would cross my mind, it didn’t even when I had a years long identity crisis because I didn’t know yet how to connect with myself. And everyone I know about, regardless gender, has to contemplate for nanoseconds before a confident “no”. Downplaying the significance of when someone feels differently, even if it’s “light” or “neutral”, is ignorant and cruel. And I don’t even mean ignorant of a small minority, thinking about your own experience is sufficient to get the point.
It’s actually really validating for you to say that, thank you! For so long I thought that every guy was secretly disappointed that they hadn’t been born a girl
I’m a woman but I’ve had this discussion with many guys and it’s honestly a universal experience. I’ve discussed it so much because as soon as you think about for a second you realize it it’s not a very intuitive and straightforward fact, it’s honestly a wonder so many people are so confident about the gender they were born with.
Can’t imagine how difficult your journey must be, sending you sincere warm wishes.
I think part of why trans folks end up with this misconception is that there are a bunch of cishet guys who’d happily be a girl for a day. But it’s usually for sexual reasons only (I get to touch boobs!) and they definitely want to change back at the end. Whereas I was always fine with the concept of “being changed into a girl indefinitely” but it was usually as a thing outside my control, so I didn’t have to consider wanting it.
Oh absolutely, how lonely I felt having undiagnosed ADHD for 30+ years. I never knew why I felt so misunderstood until I realized what was making me different from everyone else. The past 4 years post diagnosis has been revelation after revelation as I recontextualize my entire life.
Wow that’s so true. I am cis and there is no way such a thought would cross my mind, it didn’t even when I had a years long identity crisis because I didn’t know yet how to connect with myself. And everyone I know about, regardless gender, has to contemplate for nanoseconds before a confident “no”. Downplaying the significance of when someone feels differently, even if it’s “light” or “neutral”, is ignorant and cruel. And I don’t even mean ignorant of a small minority, thinking about your own experience is sufficient to get the point.
It’s actually really validating for you to say that, thank you! For so long I thought that every guy was secretly disappointed that they hadn’t been born a girl
I’m a woman but I’ve had this discussion with many guys and it’s honestly a universal experience. I’ve discussed it so much because as soon as you think about for a second you realize it it’s not a very intuitive and straightforward fact, it’s honestly a wonder so many people are so confident about the gender they were born with.
Can’t imagine how difficult your journey must be, sending you sincere warm wishes.
I think part of why trans folks end up with this misconception is that there are a bunch of cishet guys who’d happily be a girl for a day. But it’s usually for sexual reasons only (I get to touch boobs!) and they definitely want to change back at the end. Whereas I was always fine with the concept of “being changed into a girl indefinitely” but it was usually as a thing outside my control, so I didn’t have to consider wanting it.
Oh absolutely, how lonely I felt having undiagnosed ADHD for 30+ years. I never knew why I felt so misunderstood until I realized what was making me different from everyone else. The past 4 years post diagnosis has been revelation after revelation as I recontextualize my entire life.
I wouldn’t wish that feeling on anyone.