Woah, awesome fit! You look great! And I’m very jealous of your hair <3

Yay, congratulations! I’d have gotten impatient and started DIY if I had to wait that long…

I started with gel (massive PITA to apply but works well), did injections for a while (kind of a bother even once a week, and hormone levels going up and down isn’t very nice), and now on patches (awesome, no complaints). Probably only implants would be better.

Unless your cat is constantly licking wherever you applied the gel, you don’t need to worry. You can wash your hands after applying!

They accepted her after nearly everyone got possessed.

Well yeah, but they didn’t have a chance to up till that point. Rumi stayed in the closet until she was outed by the demons right at the end. As I see it, all the conflict within the trio was driven by her trying to stay hidden. The message I got was: you don’t need to hide like you were taught as a kid; your friends will accept you; we’re stronger together.

But perhaps that’s just my experience coloring things. Society really has changed a lot since the 80s and 90s.

No, I know how the plot of the movie goes. I’m taking it out of context.

I gave away my favorite girl’s name to my daughter. After coming out I was nearly Naomi, but I don’t like how a lot of English speakers pronounce it as “nay / nigh oh me” instead of “now me”. My wife suggested Amy and I thought “fuck it, that’ll do.”

I stopped fighting. Trying to be someone I wasn’t was literally killing me.

Sure, there’s a lot to learn at first about How To Girl, and the dysphoria sucks until the hormones work their magic. But now I can just be me, no filter. Life is so much easier than it was before. And that means I can deal with any shit that comes my way without it overwhelming me.

Now I kind of want some transparent mustard?

Hi there! Thanks for stopping by <3

wtf am I supposed to do with this?

I recommend transitioning. You’ll feel a lot better.

How do I find out for sure?

If you think you are, you almost certainly are. But really, why worry about labels? The key question is, what do you want to do about it?

If it helps, the thing that made me absolutely certain was trying to imagine how I’d feel if I was actually a woman born and raised in a male vessel. Apart from being exactly what I was feeling, allowing myself to think of myself as a woman (even just hypothetically) felt so good I didn’t want to stop.

Am I allowed to be a trans lesbian because I’m not attracted to men?

Sure! You’re welcome to be a lesbian if you want.

Can I even come out, when it will ruin my whole life?

Ultimately it’s your decision. You’ve probably already considered the worst-case scenario if you do, but people can surprise you. It probably won’t be that bad!

Besides, you’ll get to be a woman for the rest of your life. Isn’t that worth a few awkward conversations?

I’m jealous of the youth, being old sucks.

Yeah, I know. I came out at 39. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future! Pick the path that will bring you the most joy. Plus, trans people frequently end up looking shockingly youthful. Like, spookily so. There is still time.

Good luck!

Choo choo! Next stop 💖 GIRL TOWN 💖

Light skin; dark blonde here. My facial hair is darker than anywhere else. Six sessions at high power were enough to clear my cheeks and most of my neck of visible hairs, and significantly thin out around my mouth. I have quite a few gray hairs that will need electrolysis to clear, and I plan to take care of the rest that way too.

Yes! I second that. I grew up in a similar environment and it was very reassuring to read about Mia’s experiences and thoughts.

Not exactly the same, but starting out I felt really apprehensive about going out in overly feminine clothing. I guess I was embarrassed about possibly looking like a parody of a woman, or maybe just doing something new that I wasn’t used to. Anyway, the times when I gave in to my fear and wore something plain and androgynous, I’d feel terrible, like I was suppressing myself. I wanted to look and feel pretty and feminine!

So whenever I was choosing my clothes for the day and I felt that “are you sure?” fear, I remembered that feeling of betraying myself by not wearing what I wanted to. At first I did have to force myself a bit, kind of not think about what I was doing, but as soon as I got outside and realized that nobody cared what I was wearing, I could relax and enjoy feeling good about myself. It got a lot easier pretty quickly after that.

I guess my answer is yeah, it is scary and I totally understand being reluctant to take that first step. (On the other hand, you’ve already come out and are using a new name! I’d have thought that was a much bigger hurdle than a few clothes.) Try not to think too hard about it. You’re just ordering clothes; you don’t have to wear them, or show them to anybody. Then you can just wear them in your room; nobody has to see. And finally when you’re used to that, make a short trip outside, or whatever. Baby steps. If at any point it turns out you don’t like it, you can always stop, no harm done, right?

MAXIMUM🩷GAY

Hope you feel better on the estrogen than on the booze <3

I guess… order a skirt as well? ;3

🗹 High socks
🗹 Short shorts
🗹 Rainbow wrist warmers
🗹 Guitar

U do gud :3

Waaaah, I didn’t even see the kitteh at first! Full marks.

We can only show you the button. You have to press it for yourself.

I know people say you’ll be about as good-looking after transitioning as before, but that’s nonsense. I’ve not seen a single trans person who didn’t look way better afterwards.

※ May be biased

Good for you!

I’ve been having more and more moments as well where I just stop and think, “this is awesome”.

What you describe is really familiar! I felt pretty much the same way starting out.

To begin with, my transition goals were “I want a more feminine body (specifically breasts)”; that was it. If it turned out I passed as a woman and people called me “she/her” that would be fine, but I’d probably stick with my old name and social role. Probably wasn’t going to get bottom surgery or anything. I’d just be a dude who looks like a lady, to coin a phrase. Whatever nebulous essence of femininity cis women had, I didn’t understand, and I didn’t have it. I was just me.

What happened next though is I got on HRT, the body issues started to get resolved, and I realized that I wasn’t actually OK with being seen or referred to as a man. So I changed my name, with a kind of “yeah, I know it’s weird to have a girl’s name, but that’s what the documents say, so if you wouldn’t mind…” approach. And I started presenting more and more traditionally feminine so that other people (and myself) would see me as a woman without prompting. I still felt that I was kind of faking it; I wasn’t a “real” woman, just pretending to be one. (Oh, and I realized I really did want bottom surgery after all)

But now I’ve accepted that everyone is “just me”, and I have just as much right to call myself a woman as anybody else. I choose to believe that deciding to be a woman is exactly what it means to be one! That’s not to say that other viewpoints are necessarily wrong, but it’s the only interpretation that makes sense to me now.

So I think what I wanted to say is: I think how you are feeling is pretty normal actually, and it’s possible your feelings will change as you get more comfortable with yourself. But it’s cool if they don’t.

i feel like the changes on HRT at 36 would be limited

Fortunately, that’s not the case at all! For example I started at 40.