That’s why I try and have trans symbols that were visible on me at all times. As an act of resistance, a fuck you I’m trans, deal with it. But also, as another form of resistance: community. A reminder that you’re not alone. That if you see this, you can come and talk to me at any point, you’ll be safe with me. The world sucks and family can be awful. So I don’t mind being someone’s big sister or cool aunt for even just 10 minutes of their lives.
Only way it could be ‘stolen valor’ is if you’re a trans/queerphobe, & that’d just be called ‘lying’ & ‘a dick move’. Just do what feels right.
I do have a few alternatives though:
If you want to be clear you’re an ally, there are ally variants, though I wouldn’t recommend going that route unless you have a queer friend/loved one who’s happy to call you an ally before doing so. Some cis people claim to be ally’s & then continue to buy jk Rowling trash or be weird about pronouns & ‘dude’. Don’t want to muddy the waters.
Otherwise, you could just get something like the progress pride flag if you don’t feel like being specific.
Some trans feminine people don’t care for being called dude or variations of the same. Trans people in general tend to have complicated feelings about how others refer to them. Others don’t care one way or the other.
If you’re not sure, just ask. If you slip up then correct yourself & move on. Not much to it. This advice should also apply to pronoun stuff.
Some transphobes like to act like there’s a whole complicated song & dance you gotta do so the scary trans people won’t be triggered if you talk to them or whatever.
Its really not like that, all ya gotta do is ask & be respectful.
i think it’s totally fine for allies to fly the trans colors! it’s easily identifiable and unlikely to lead to confusion (e.g. is that rainbow just for style??)
That’s why I try and have trans symbols that were visible on me at all times. As an act of resistance, a fuck you I’m trans, deal with it. But also, as another form of resistance: community. A reminder that you’re not alone. That if you see this, you can come and talk to me at any point, you’ll be safe with me. The world sucks and family can be awful. So I don’t mind being someone’s big sister or cool aunt for even just 10 minutes of their lives.
Does it mean anything if I’m not trans myself? I don’t want to end up in a stolen valor situation! Just want folks to know there are allies around.
Put it on and you WILL grow boobies. Or lose boobies. Something is happening to your boobies.
I’m a big fan, but I don’t think I would want one of my own.
You do not have a say in this.
That’s okay; they generally come in pairs.
yes, I’m usually in favour of stuff happening to boobies, but feel little need to have my own
What symbol do you like?
I signal with many.
My📱 rn uses a subtle one:
CX, either Teepublic took LaurenSwiffin’s account, or she took it down. Can’t find the upscale version.
found this one hilarious
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I’d be interested in opinions on this as well.
got one so far. https://sh.itjust.works/post/52345288/22868580
Only way it could be ‘stolen valor’ is if you’re a trans/queerphobe, & that’d just be called ‘lying’ & ‘a dick move’. Just do what feels right.
I do have a few alternatives though:
If you want to be clear you’re an ally, there are ally variants, though I wouldn’t recommend going that route unless you have a queer friend/loved one who’s happy to call you an ally before doing so. Some cis people claim to be ally’s & then continue to buy jk Rowling trash or be weird about pronouns & ‘dude’. Don’t want to muddy the waters.
Otherwise, you could just get something like the progress pride flag if you don’t feel like being specific.
Edit: misspelled ‘variants’
I’m not finding anything with this search term. Do you have more information?
Thank you for the tips.
Nope, spelling mistake, already edited
Gotcha, thanks!
What do you mean about “being weird about dude”?
Some trans feminine people don’t care for being called dude or variations of the same. Trans people in general tend to have complicated feelings about how others refer to them. Others don’t care one way or the other. If you’re not sure, just ask. If you slip up then correct yourself & move on. Not much to it. This advice should also apply to pronoun stuff.
Some transphobes like to act like there’s a whole complicated song & dance you gotta do so the scary trans people won’t be triggered if you talk to them or whatever. Its really not like that, all ya gotta do is ask & be respectful.
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There are cool pins that have like the pride flag and say you are safe with me that kind of stuff. Maybe you should get some of that. :)
That sounds like what I want, thanks.
i think it’s totally fine for allies to fly the trans colors! it’s easily identifiable and unlikely to lead to confusion (e.g. is that rainbow just for style??)