Hi, I’m not completely not ok, but my headspace is a mess, so I’d like to ask for media recommendations and tips for the panic I’m going through.

I’ve kinda known I am trans for years, but only in a dissociated, intellectualized sense, while living as a man. And recently I’ve gotten a tiny extra amount of monetary safety, enough to make me emotionally relax, and the realization of my transness hit me.

I was unable to imagine my self 5 years down there line. I drew a complete blank. My imagination suffocating between dysphoria and denial.

I’ve been seeing myself only as a girl in dreams for a week, and it has felt wonderful, and when I’m awake I’m paralyzed in dread of the amount of work in front of me, my deeply internalized misogyny about my appearence, my bigoted (though “safe enough”) surrounding people…

Question, what have you watched that brought you trans joy? Encouragement to go on towards something worth it.

And, in more mentally panicky matters, what do I do about an incredible amount and thickness of body hair? I know that the very dark coloration of it makes laser an option, I’ve heard electrolysis is underrated, but those seem like absolutely enormous steps right now. What can be easy, early, discreet steps I can take for some euphoria?

  • Ada@piefed.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
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    2 months ago

    electrolysis is the only form of permanent hair removal and is very much not underrated

    That’s not quite correct. It gets said that way because the US has very specific requirements for what can be called permanent hair removal and what can’t. Laser does do permanent hair removal. It just never gets 100% of your hairs, and some of the ones it does get will grow back. But the vast majority of lasered hairs will be zapped, and zapped permanently.

    A common approach is to laser the majority of the hair on your face, and then finish off the stragglers with electrolysis.

    I’ve got dark hair and light skin, and I lasered my face between 8 and 9 years ago, and I’ve never had electrolysis, because I’ve never needed it. The few hairs that did escape my laser treatment are small enough in quantity that I tweeze them. Maybe 3 or 4 a day. That’s pretty permanent hair removal :)

    • dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      2 months ago

      yes, I didn’t mean to imply anything to the contrary; I should have said something like “official” form of permanent hair removal - it’s also my experience that laser does result in permanent hair loss

      I also have only had laser on my face (though not as long ago as 8 years), and I have no beard shadow and like you the remaining hairs are few enough that I could probably manage them with tweezing (I use a little battery-operated face shaver because I’m still getting laser treatments in the hope it might eliminate the remainder of hairs - so far there hasn’t been much luck).

    • Hugucinogens@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
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      8 days ago

      Hey Ada, just giving you a heads up because I don’t know if this is something that concerns you, though I assume all you can do probably is ban them from this instance alone.

      Take a peek at the almost certainly LLM account that replied to all my latest comments with nonsense, upon my interaction with them. Ctrl-F for my ceicocat comment in this thread, they replied with a nonsense question to that too, and if you want, check their account.