As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.
I’m very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.
Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they’re literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you’re telling me that men don’t have a problem??
I genuinely don’t understand that need they have to defend men…
This ignores the fact that men hold systemic power over us (as well as over cis women). While individual men aren’t inherently bad people, the power they have at their disposal just by being men (and the violence that power enables) means that to be a “good” man, you have to make an active effort to not uphold that power. Not a lot of men do this (though some do). Therefore, there’s reason to be distrustful of the average man we meet.