I see a different reason Romulans are so upset. The Romulans and Vulcans were one people at one point with the major split being the Vulcans embracing logic and rejecting the hot-blooded and passionate Romulans. So millennia later do the Vulcans soften and embrace their emotion-having brothers? No. They find these other hot-blooded and passionate creatures called humans and then work patiently to shepherd them and their “Federation of Planets” into dominance in the Alpha quadrant of the galaxy all while still keeping Romulans at arms length. That would leave me bitter too.
I dunno’, seems like the difference between teaching a curious child in the humans vs teaching a smartass knowitall in the Romulans. Still kinda’ makes sense why they cannot kiss and make up.
Isn’t this just the story of the allied powers in World War Two repackaged into science fiction? The members were:
The British who were sort of friends with the Americans but regarded them as less civilized and less experienced in running a nation.
The French who literally fought the Hundred Years’ War against the English.
The Soviets who didn’t like any of those people and proceeded to argue with all of them thereafter.
The Americans who had existed for a little over a century, invented the nuke after winning a fight with a World power in an ascendant phase, and decided it was on them to guarantee World peace.
