Share some activities you’ve been interested in doing but couldn’t do because you’re closeted.

Transmasc, Transfem, Nonbinary, and Gender Non-Conforming answers are all welcome and encouraged here.

  • CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de
    3·
    11 months ago

    Shaving. Now, that also does have something to do with low self-esteem and being scared about how I’d look without beard since I am bearded for half my life and didn’t shave my face smooth since I was 16, but I’d like to try but then everybody and their mom would ask why and I don’t want to answer (I’m a bad liar and don’t feel comfortable lying, too).

    Edit: I appreciate y’all wanting to help, but please stop. I didn’t ask for advice, I’ll probably eventually figure something out and I kinda feel pressured and pushed, it’s really not great. Sharing your own experiences is fine, but more is really not needed (especially if you’re suggesting coming up with excuses)

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      1·
      11 months ago

      I get that. I didn’t shave my beard until the weekend before starting hormones. It was an armor I grew to protect myself (partly from seeing my face) and I let it go when it was time. I had the same reasons for not shaving sooner. So grow it until you’re ready to shed it sister. Your body is yours alone.

  • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneBanned from communityEnglish
    3·
    11 months ago

    When I was closeted I often thought about transitioning as just a way for me to finally wear dresses and skirts in public that I was secretly wearing at home. And when considering whether to take things further, I would weigh all the downsides of transition (the cost, the social stigma, the danger, relying on exogenous hormones the rest of my life, etc.) against those benefits and it would make them seem not worth it.

    But in retrospect, transition was different than I thought - estrogen changed my mood and solved mental health problems I didn’t realize were even problems, that I had lived with my whole life and had internalized as normal and just part of who I was. I would have never understood how important or necessary transition would be to my basic health and sanity.

    So yeah, now I get to make and wear amazing outfits every day I would have never dreamed of before, but that’s not really what makes transition worth it, it’s like a side bonus. The truth is that I needed those exogenous hormones, transition wasn’t choosing to need them, I needed them the whole time. The need wasn’t optional - in a real sense transition wasn’t optional.

  • maria [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    2·
    11 months ago
    • meet up with friends again
    • (sounds weird, but) plan my future and not be so short sighted.
    • Going climbing
    • Wear super cool clothing
    • Be gay <3 (and finding someone for me)
    • Remove the large towels from my mirrors (mostly a transition thing tho)
    • Maybe find interests which don’t just serve as distractions from the status quo
    • Hopefully invest into a different career path
    • occasionally taking on an ‘entertainer’-like character without it seeming naturally *masculine*
  • Bunny19@lemmy.world
    1·
    11 months ago

    Be comfortable in my body

    Wear the clothes I like

    Express my joy at this cute thing I just found

    Feel good when I wake up in the morning

    Openly express my love for the people I hold dearest to me

    Go into stores like Victorias secret

    Stop for 2 seconds to oogle the cute dress in the window of said vs

    Paint my nails

    Listen to certain music

    Look too long at a third of the people I find attractive

    Grow boobs

    Ect ect could go on you get the idea