Sorry if I don’t belong commenting here, but I figured I’d leave a comment in case it helps anyone recognize something about themselves as it’s related to what you said.
As a man I’ve never had a second thought about it. I never thought about changing anything in that respect. It’s not something that ever comes up in my mind, I just “am.” I’ve never thought about “what it means to be a man” or have any concern about what I look like (other than hating being short and balding lol) when I look in the mirror my only thoughts are usually “God what an ugly fucker” lol so I suppose if you do have thoughts about yourself it’s worth exploring them!
I remember a Real Life comic (which I can’t easily find again, sorry) about Mae getting ready to have bottom surgery and having doubts. Her wife pointed out “you know, most guys wouldn’t be excited about having their dick chopped off” and Dave, overhearing from the next room, yelled something to the effect of “can confirm!”
“Oh nooo, my crotch bits are gone and I’m growing tits, whatever shall i doooooo”. Yeah the fact that that thought didn’t/doesn’t even slightly alarm me was a sign IMO.
I guess a bit of both? I never thought about it because the gender assigned to me at birth fit, but I can’t say I spent any real amount of time trying to think about what it means. I just don’t have any issues with that part of how I appear so I had no “need” to think about it.
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Sorry if I don’t belong commenting here, but I figured I’d leave a comment in case it helps anyone recognize something about themselves as it’s related to what you said.
As a man I’ve never had a second thought about it. I never thought about changing anything in that respect. It’s not something that ever comes up in my mind, I just “am.” I’ve never thought about “what it means to be a man” or have any concern about what I look like (other than hating being short and balding lol) when I look in the mirror my only thoughts are usually “God what an ugly fucker” lol so I suppose if you do have thoughts about yourself it’s worth exploring them!
I remember a Real Life comic (which I can’t easily find again, sorry) about Mae getting ready to have bottom surgery and having doubts. Her wife pointed out “you know, most guys wouldn’t be excited about having their dick chopped off” and Dave, overhearing from the next room, yelled something to the effect of “can confirm!”
As a cis guy, yep, that just about sums it up!
“Oh nooo, my crotch bits are gone and I’m growing tits, whatever shall i doooooo”. Yeah the fact that that thought didn’t/doesn’t even slightly alarm me was a sign IMO.
that’s actually really validating, thanks for commenting :>
As in you never thought about your gender or as in you explored and found out the gender assigned to you at birth happened to fit you? :)
I guess a bit of both? I never thought about it because the gender assigned to me at birth fit, but I can’t say I spent any real amount of time trying to think about what it means. I just don’t have any issues with that part of how I appear so I had no “need” to think about it.