So, I Am a little over 3 months on E (4mg EEN) and yesterday I saw my boss for a meeting after quite some time (havent really seen him for like 4-6 weeks) and this man straight up sees me and is like “Wow, youre growing boobs”. I mean, yeah I Am, but I was not aware, that they are this obvious.
However, for now I have no fear that I can no longer boymode, since I wore a relatively thin (but really cool) pullover through which you can in fact see my boobs. If I wear a hoodie, you can’t see anything.
That was definitely quite an affirming and funny interaction.
I wasn’t wearing a bra since I had to wash the only one I own. He knows that I’m trans and that I was changing my name, but I didnt told him that I’m on HRT (I dont tell it that much in general). I was somewhat “girl moding” that day. I wore some grey high waist jeans and I wore this quite comfy wool pullover that I bought rom a local thrift store. It is not that thick, and not that baggy which causes my boobs to poke a little through.
The pullover I wore:
congrats girl, but you need to wear a bra.
If you can see your nipples through the shirt, you might need a bra with more padding. Bralettes sometimes come with removeable foam pads, those are the ones that work really well.
welcome to girlhood :-)
Seems like I will have to get some. So much stuff to buy and so little money :(
Yep. Going braless can be a fashion statement outside work (very 90s), but it’s seen as pretty unprofessional to have visible nipples. It’s also generally something that less passing trans women (especially early in transition women) get way less social leeway on. That said, before I got mine pierced I typically went braless socially, but since then it’s just too visible to do outside the sort of contexts where it’s socially appropriate to flash my high beams.
why did you start wearing bras after getting pierced?
I always wish I had the confidence to go braless in public, but I think it would attract unwanted attention 🤔 I’ll do it maybe if I have like a knit sweater or layers on that hide the nipple, but it feels too sexually explicit to wear my normal shirts without a bra 😅
Because it makes the nipples more visible under shirts. When you’re wearing something baggy with subtle nipples it’s fine, but when they’re always prominent it’s less so.
I keep having a strong desire to pierce my nipples, but I’m currently just suppressing those desires - how was your experience?
Makes sense re visibility; I also get the sense that piercings also lead people to see the nipple in a more sexualized way, which also tips the balance.
I don’t tend to wear baggy clothes now, so that might also be part of why I always wear a bra 😁
I love it, it’s kinda a pain in the ass in some ways, but I really like what it adds to my boobs. They’re definitely an inconvenient piercing as they take long to heal and close up really fast.
And yeah they definitely add to the sexualization which can be a plus or minus. Like I don’t want my in laws to catch sight of it, even if I am a very “free the nipple” type. And it’s not like I hide my piercings when I’m topless in public, it’s a small enough change that I don’t see any difference in that context.
But yeah if you’ve planning on surgery you’ll want them to heal and to get some plastic jewelry for recovery. And speaking from personal experience, it was stupid as hell to get my nipples pierced 3 months after bottom surgery.
And yeah I’ve also generally shifted from baggy clothes over the past few years. In general I’m glad I got them pierced.
If you happen to have a costco membership, or know someone who can order for you there are some wire free bras from there that come in a 2 pack that’s cheaper than most of the bras I’ve looked at in stores. The brand is buffalo, and they’re pretty lightly padded and don’t have much form, and combined with no underwire means they will fit a wide range of boob sizes and should continue to fit as your boobs grow in. I wear them with or without my breast forms, which is a difference of an A/B cup to D/DD. I’m bad at estimating my cup size because my chest is very broad 😋
Well, I dont even live in the US, so that’s not an option for me.
I will probably, just buy a pack of sport bras or so. I have no clue what my cup size would be and for now I Am just going to be lazy and sticking to sport bras.
Also a good option! If you can find them, maybe try looking for one with a deeper neckline to keep wardrobe options open. I also started out with just sports bras and an unforseen consequence was I couldn’t wear a v neck without my bra showing!
yeah, I would go for bralettes over a sports bra for this reason. Also, in my experience sports bras tend to compress boobs during exercise which can be uncomfortable to wear all day, whereas bralettes are meant to actually work with normal clothes and be worn all day and can be quite comfy.